Advice

  1. Both disliking the same thing
    Both disliking the same person
    Both attending and disliking the same event

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  2. Be yourself, but more outgoing and less argumentative.

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  3. Whatever song is playing in the background
    If it's warm out

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  4. Aries: Think about your desires, this month, in so many different forms, but all of them warm and alive. Think of the ones that burn brighter than the rest, the ones that could burn a hole right through you, the ones that exist on a different plane. Think of the ones that feel truest. Think of the ones that keep you awake at night.

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  5. I believe kissing is the strongest form of laughing. I believe that pink is the best calorie burner. I believe that the prettiest girls are medicine. I believe that tomorrow is strong when everything is miracles.

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  6. Hair falling over someone's eyes
    Garden-variety cruelty
    Someone who regularly stays up too late and acts tired and withdrawn during the day as a result

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  7. Even if you’re not afflicted with Must Always Make Everyone Like Me Syndrome (which I definitely suffer from), anyone trying to move forward in their career is going to feel a certain pressure to agreeably take on as much work as they’re capable of doing. The line between “happy to help out” and “being a doormat” is often both fine and blurry.

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  8. The Toast's advice columnist, Aunt Acid, responds to a reader whose partner doesn't like to save and another who is worried about her sister's marriage.

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  9. And please don't tell me "just stay awake while the sun is out." A wizard has taken up residence behind my eyes and I have no control when he opens and closes them.

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  10. Aries: There are things in this world that you can’t control. There are questions whose answers you can’t yet know. There are loads too heavy for your arms to hold. And sometimes the best thing to do is work to be wiser, stronger, more able to meet each day.

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  11. I've been at my job for two and a half years but I’m about to leave to move out of state. A few weeks ago, I found out from a female coworker that a male coworker of ours, Sam, has been sexually harassing almost all the women in my office for at least a year.

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  12. This month Aunt Acid advises a reader whose boyfriend is down about his unemployment, and another who is wondering how to tell her husband about a past sexual assault.

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  13. Aries: Sometimes you can feel the world spinning underneath you and sometimes you can’t, but either way, it’s always in motion. This month is about learning new ways to keep moving forward when the earth starts to shift.

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  14. You don’t have to stick it out indefinitely in an environment where explosive rage is the norm. While you’re there you might as well treat it like bootcamp, where you can learn to inoculate yourself against taking things too personally, but you might also consider following in your former coworkers’ footsteps and developing an exit strategy of your own.

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  15. Begin by arranging your body in a stressful position. Consider, as you set your intention, the Angriest Dog In The World – The dog who is so angry he cannot move. He cannot eat. He cannot sleep. He can just barely growl. Bound so tightly with tension and anger, he approaches the state of rigor mortis. Let this be your guide.

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