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I am going to assume you watched Lemonade. Lemonade was phenomenal. Please share your favourite parts of Lemonade and your favourite pieces about Lemonade and your favourite tweets about Lemonade.

a) this is lovely


c) I saw an understudy play “The Man In the Chair” at The Drowsy Chaperone and he was so great and he had no chill (perfect for the character) and we gave him a standing ovation too

This was beautiful and lovely and everything, also if you are an old dude and find love with a much much younger dude, you should just enjoy it, see also Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor:

For our three children and me, Clare was at the heart of our family. When I told her, “You’re my best friend,” she would reply, “and your best critic.” And when I said, “You’re my best critic,” she responded, “and your best friend.”

We were both about to turn 70 when she died. I assumed that I was too old to seek or expect another romance. But five years later, standing on a beach in Fort Lauderdale, Fla., I sensed a creative hour and did not want to miss it.

It was afternoon, and the tanning beachgoers faced west, toward the wall of concrete buildings lining the boulevard, to catch the sun, ignoring the beautiful sea. I swam alone in the water, attracting the attention of two bystanders near the shore. They came over to say hello, which is how I met Matthew Charlton.

The death of a teenage girl in that bathroom fight in Delaware is incredibly tragic and awful:

The victim was a 10th-grader from New Castle, Del., who had gotten involved in a confrontation with two other students at Howard High School of Technology in Wilmington, spokeswoman Kathy K. Demarest said in a statement. She said no weapons were involved. Police are questioning the other students, Demarest said.

This piece on suicide in Greenland is wrenching and thorough:

By 1985, suicide was killing more people than cancer. That year, at least 50 people killed themselves in Greenland. The total population was only 53,000. In the U.S., it would be as if in one year, the entire population of say, Lincoln, Neb. — more than 250,000 people — killed themselves. And no one acknowledged it; it didn’t make the papers.

At that time, almost no one was studying suicide in Greenland. There were a few psychologists, but they were Danish, so it was impossible for Inuit people to get help in their native language. In therapy, each word matters. Plus, the stigma around suicide was intense. It was shameful. People who had lost children to suicide weren’t even acknowledging that fact to each other, it was so taboo.

Viet Thanh Nguyen:

Nguyen was adamant from the beginning that his novel would not fall into the “typical maneuvers of minority literature written for a majority audience”. He refused to translate his culture – for example, writing “Vietnamese New Year” instead of “Tet” – or have the book’s themes affirm American ideals and American exceptionalism. Had The Sympathizer been written for a white audience, the “ending would be radically different”. His narrator never rejects communism, for example. “I wrote as if I had all the privilege of a majority writer, and majority writers never have to translate or pander,” Nguyen said.

carvell is amazing

(*very Mallory Is Great voice*) Mallory is great:

Dear Prudence,
I’m a bisexual man in a happy, monogamous relationship. My wife is fine with my sexuality but does not want me to talk about it with other people. She especially does not want me talking about it around her friends, many of whom are gay men, for fear that they would start hitting on me. (I think maybe she also worries that they would make fun of me—although we all get along great.) She also does not want me to contact an ex-lover, who was also my best friend for a long time (although admittedly this was years ago). I’m not particularly bothered by these “conditions,” but I would like to speak to this guy at least once again in my life, and it might be nice to have people with whom I could openly discuss my sexuality.

—She’s Honestly Fine With It

I disagree that your wife is “fine” with your sexuality. If she wants you to keep your sexuality a secret and thinks any gay man who learned of it would be unable to keep from either mocking or trying to seduce you, I think she is in fact deeply uncomfortable with and resentful of your sexuality, which is a shame. It’s one thing for her not to want you to get in touch with an ex, which is understandable if high-handed; it’s quite another for her to forbid you from even talking about the fact that you’re bisexual. If she thinks the only thing keeping your friends from trying to destroy your marriage is a mistaken belief in your heterosexuality, then she has insufficient faith in both your marriage and the character of your friends. Tell your wife that you’re not going to hide who you are from those close to you simply to keep her comfortable. Her version of protection and support looks an awful lot like a closet to me.

my pastor went all in on smug white evangelicals who think that saying “we are all brothers and sisters in Christ so we are post-racial” is chill and I was HERE FOR IT and I quoted some stuff:

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