Maybe the greatest cat-based listicle of the 21st century.
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This dad who wrote into Dear Prudie is out of his goddamn MIND.
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Elon Green sat down with Gay Talese, and they went through literally every line of “Frank Sinatra Has a Cold.”
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You can read an excerpt from my contribution to the Hairpin Travel Serial here, and you could buy the WHOLE THING here, for $1.99.
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“I’m gay. I date men. Some of those men have vaginas.”
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The guys who wrote the excellent Game of Shadows have returned to take down the NFL and their stony refusal to deal with the post-concussive trauma of their players.
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A whole bunch of free pulp e-books!
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This blind item is totally that religious Baldwin brother, right?
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“Twice as Good”: Olivia Pope and her dad. For commentary on the same, Salon. Don’t read the comments. You were warned. I mean, I didn’t even read them, because this is not my first time at the “Anything About People of Color on Salon” rodeo. Oh, GOD, please watch the OITNB actresses reenact it.
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Hot damn that Prudie dad letter is NUTS. Dude. Your daughter has probably been banging that kid for six months behind your back already, get over yourself.
I liked that comic about the dude who dates some trans men too. Interesting! When they were both thinking “Ugh I hope no one mistakes us for a straight couple” I thought that was a bit weird. I get that you don’t want to be misgendered but that’s not about you as a couple, that’s about the one that’s likely to be misgendered, right? maybe it was just a way to phrase it so the same thought was coming from both their heads. I don’t know, does anyone else have thoughts on that?
That was my exact reaction to the Prudie letter, too. I was like, “Guy, I can almost guarantee you that your daughter and that boy have had sex IN YOUR HOUSE (or maybe your car). Get over yourself!”
Where the hell did he pick up the idea that the owner of the premises of conception should have financial responsibility for a child?!
Ok I get he wished the party was more supervised but to actually conisder litigation?
I think Prudie handled him quite well.
I could sort of, kind of, a tiiiiiny bit understand if his main objection was that the host family provided alcohol to minors and then didn’t supervise them. That is considered negligence in many states. I don’t get the impression that the drinking wouldn’t have happened under his watch though. In any case, his fixation on blaming the host parents is bizarre.
Yes, the anger is understandable. And his insistence on a remedy is baffling.
It’s just so interesting how some people use the law as a weapon when they just cant handle an issue in their life. And then are disappointed when that doesnt work out for them.
Then again maybe we dont know the full story and he’d got these parents to sign a written agreement promisisng to return his daughter unfertilized and now he wants to go for breach of contract?
In which case I think he’d probably have a decent case. Of course, you would have to prove that she wasn’t already impregnanted BEFORE the party–think he makes her take pregnancy tests before she goes out anywhere, just to be safe?
Oh but what about that 2 window when pregnancy tests wont be accurate? Unless shes only allowed out every fortnight following a successfully negative test?
Right. If the kids got a DUI after the party, it’s likely the parents of the kid hosting the party (or whomever provided the alcohol to minors) would see some kind of fine or something. But even assuming his daughter was a virgin until that night (which may or may not have been the case! Would be hilarious if he’s doing this and it turns out the baby’s actual conception occurred in their bathroom or something a couple days before the party), how on Earth can he task the other parents with following each set of kids everywhere to make sure they weren’t banging? Which, let’s face it, when they’re 16 probably takes all of about 3 minutes start to finish.
brb gonna sue a bunch of hotels??
I mean, if the kids had gone to a hotel post-prom, would he be suing the Ramada for child support?
The kid could call the hotel Rama-dad?
Rama-dad, Ramama
Or if he’s going to sound like a posh english person from the 18th century:
Rama-mama?
OH MY GOD that dad is TOTALLY off his rocker. And then his follow-up! The NERVE, bro!
Sidebar: the guy who wrote in about pitching a hissy fit over having to sign a pre-nup makes me want to set everyone on fire.
wasn’t that pre-nup person a lady? Not that it makes a difference, but the letter said they were “both widows”. Still a total dickhole though. “Oh you want to protect your assets? Then I will only consent to the barest minimum of a wedding.”
(full disclosure we did a bare minimum wedding – but not out of spite!)
Totally could be! I defaulted to dudeness because I didn’t read clearly. Thanks for pointing it out.
STILL A DICKHOLE.
It is about you as a couple. One is being misgendered and mistaken for straight, the other is being mistaken for straight. They’re not the same thing, but honestly, I “pass” when I’m not with my partner, and I wish I didn’t. I feel like being visible is important!
Oh I see, yes, the visibility thing is important. I guess the “Ugh” threw me a bit.
My queer friends who are in relationships that look “straight” are often frustrated by that because they are being mis-indentified. It’s not just about one person being misgendered, it’s also about both people having their queer identities ignored/erased/made invisible, which can be really frustrating.
I get that he is upset about it, but dude, you sound NUTS. Prudie is a better person than me, because when he came back I would have been like, “Cool your fucking jets, crazypants.”
Thank goodness someone else wants to talk about the dad.
I was really offended by his blaming the other parents, though of course I understand that he is, literally, at this moment, emotionally disturbed. So of course he’s lashing out.
I feel like his letter would have gone over better if he had the self-awareness to preface with: “I realize that my partner and I should have had the kind of relationship with our daughter that made her comfortable asking the doctor for birth control long before this ever happened.”
Also the other parents should counter-sue this dad for letting his daughter potentially leave potentially dangerous bodily fluids in their home. How dare she?
The OITNB actresses can do no wrong.
From the kitty-listicle:
As early as the late 19th century, reports began to surface of a cat haunting the US Capitol. The sighters themselves termed it a “demon cat.” Its peculiarity was that, once sighted, it would begin to grow to a ridiculous and completely un-catlike proportion before disappearing again. One article from 1898 says it reached the size of an “elephant.”
Based on that last sentence, I’d say we were overdue for another disappearance.
I just wanted to throw this link in the mix: DC Mayor Grows Fearful of Federal Standoff. I’m not a DC resident and he has a lot of mixed baggage, but I do hate how the federal shutdown means that the local DC govt could potentially face a shutdown too because their budget has to be approved by Congress.. and no one seems to acknowledge this!
I also hate how sometimes it seems that people well outside of the mid-Atlantic forget that DC residents are people too, and threaten to, I don’t know, shut down 495. [Obviously I’m not including any Toastie in that category, it’s just my raging issue this morning.] I don’t know how legit that threat is though.. does anyone know anything else about it?
It would be kind of funny if their trucks were seized under civil forfeiture.
I am a DC resident and I work in DC, so for me it would be more like being Under The Dome, never able to escape. (Though it’s not like 495 is a fence around the city–you can actually get in and out without ever actually driving on it.)
Yeah, it’s just that creating a traffic jam on 495–a bigger one than what normally happens–would just totally fuck the entire metro area. (In some ways, I think people who live in DC might be better off because you guys have the metro to move around. But I suppose that’s only fair if you’re going stations to station.)
Have you ever read Good Omens? There’s a joke in there about how a demon created this (apparently) notoriously wretched highway in the London area in order to blacken millions of souls on a regular basis, and that is exactly what I imagine would happen if truckers actively work to jam 495.
I have read Good Omens, and that’s a perfect mental image. (As a pedestrian and cyclist, part of me would enjoy no one being able to drive into the city and almost hit me with their out-of-state car. But just a little part.)
The “Twice as good” speech is my everything. I actually shouted “damn right, Shonda!” to my computer screen.
My boyfriend won the day for me today after I sent him the Scandal/OITNB link and he responded, “Of course Crazy Eyes is a Gladiator in a (orange) suit.”
If you really want to get upset by a letter featured in Dear Prudence, read the first one in this column: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/…
Uzo Aduba is fantastic in everything, even Vines.