Ta-Nehisi Coates, while shutting downnnn Richard Cohen, linked back to an old post about a friend of his (Prince Jones) who was killed (murdered, to be more accurate) by the police, and it’s really powerful:
I can’t tell you how angry that made me. And anger breeds hate and blindness. And so for a good year, after 9/11 I was blind. I couldn’t feel what this city was feeling. My son was almost two, and the thought of raising him right and him still becoming “a cost of doing business” filled me with fear–and more anger. The idea that someone, whose salary you were paying, could be lethally incompetent and yet continue to keep their job just burned me.
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Modern Farmer has a pie chart of pies.
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A glorious little academic mansplaining buffet.
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BRB, downloading Lulu to see if exes are on it yet. Oh, my God, everyone is on it, automatically, and many of them have ratings. How is this okay? This isn’t okay, right?
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Surprise! Maybe you didn’t have herpes, and all those awk conversations with half a shirt on were for nothing.
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Dot Com was in The Departed.
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Casey Cep on Flannery O’Connor’s prayer journal.
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Guantánamo Bay, 12 years on.
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The 2000 best public high schools in the nation, with the caveat that “best” means whatever Newsweek decides it should, and it has a lot to do with money and access.
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Oh, an “accident.” Seems legit.
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The rich guys of Instagram with lions (some of these are hyenas and stuff, tbh.)
Tags: feminism, link roundup, racism, the internet
Do other people have an entertainment threshold for stories like on the mansplaining blog? Reading a couple, it’s kind of amusing to me – dumb men, hahaha, reveling in my misandry. But by story 3-4 my amusement turns to rage and I can feel my pulse spike and I have to close the tab so I don’t hulk out at work.
I can get through about 5, but I have to skip some of them when they go from light to dark too quickly. As they tend to do.
Also, I should tell the dude-bro from the one story that I no longer hear either our pets or our children at night. Sure, in their infancy I was usually the one to wake up, but many’s the time in the past decade or so that I’ve arisen in the morning to have my husband recount how often he got up to give someone cough medicine or to be on vomit duty. And his side of the bed is the furthest from all the creatures.
It takes me 4-5, depending on how cranky I am when I get on there to begin with.
I can get through maybe 3 before wanting to throw a glass at the wall or something dramatic. Mostly I want to send every single story to my PhD dudefriend and ASK HIM WHY HE ISN’T CHANGING THINGS.
Yeah…I’ve been reading programmersbeingdicks.tumblr.com a lot lately to prep myself for a possible career change. And, like the mansplaining blog it’s one of those things that I can read for 15 minutes before it become all too real and then I die of a rage stroke.
Yeah, it definitely gets hard to read after a while, but I’m not sure it’s supposed to be funny or entertaining but more of an outlet for people to share their experiences.
ETA: Uh oh, did I just mansplain this tumblr to you? 😉
The one where the guy mansplains a woman’s own vagina to her was my breaking point.
ALWAYS USE PROPER LUBE, YOU GUYS
That is not a pie chart in the sense that phrase usually carries! It’s just a chart about pies that happens to be shaped like a pie. I’m more disappointed than I thought I would be.
Here is an alternate interpretation, via Pop Chart Lab. I have it up in my kitchen and it is delightful.
Yes, that’s what I’m talking about!
One Thanksgiving, my (then) 4th-grade nephew came home with a colorful chart of all the students’ favorite pies, compiled by the whole class under the teacher’s instruction.
A bar chart.
I can hardly convey the vexation this caused the entire adult faction of the family, and how patient-but-tired the kids got of hearing us discuss it.
I was disappointed too, but it’s got recipes for 12 delicious pies on it, so I got over it pretty quick, because PIE.
I love that the pie chart has February’s seasonal pie ingredient as chocolate. Like ‘oh Jesus, February is abysmal and nothing’s growing so what would a sane person eat? CHOCOLATE PIE, obvs’.
Modern Farmer is all of us.
Lulu sounds awful to me. I mean, if the roles were reversed we’d all be immediately outraged, so it’s really strange to me that this is being treated as an amusing “oh look at what’s been made, how entertaining” kind of a thing. It’s still encouraging people to rate each other online which just really creeps me out no matter who’s doing it. I mean it’s great that it turns out people are being nice on the thing, but they’re… still… using the thing. I don’t know. I don’t like it.
Is it almost definitely a terrible thing from a being-a-decent-human standpoint? Yes. Does it make me wish I had a smartphone so I could download the app? Also yes.
I don’t like it either. I think it’s interesting that it doesn’t seem to be descending into hideousness, but it’s still not something I’d use or look at for nosiness purposes. (Anyway, the texts from Byron describe my most recent ex better than anything else ever could.)
Yeah, this kind of thing makes me really uncomfortable.
It’s horrifying. It should not exist. I did rate Anne Helen Petersen’s dog, Bunk, though, because he and I are FB friends and he came up as an option.
I selected:
#bedroomeyes
#greatcuddler
#onewomanman
#greathair
No #QuestionableSearchHistory?
I didn’t even know there was a pie that is basically butter. Now I am the happiest.
RE: high schools. Yep. I graduated from one of those on the list. Not coincidentally we got housing in the same area so our kids could go to those schools & in June, our first will graduate from the same school. He’s super-smart (and even seems to understand what mansplaining is, so I’m doing something right) and raises the stats on the school, but we have distinctly gained an advantage by being on the less-affluent (not least-affluent, we are in a good/lucky place there) end of a bonkers-affluent school district with active PTAs and lots of programs available.
Yes indeed, what is this CHESS PIE? I am intrigued, and by that I mean immediately obsessed.
Chess pie is a transparent pie, I think? Like Pecan pie but without any nuts.
Yeah, my parents did a similar thing – moved juuuuuuuuust on the edge of the district for one of the really good schools and sent all three kids there. It was sort of strange being in class with kids whose parents would think nothing of buying them a BMW convertible for their 16th birthday*, but it was a great school and definitely taught us well.
*my intended car (a 1987 Toyota Camry) had its engine eaten by rabbits and had to be scrapped before it ever got to me, alas.
Eaten by rabbits!?! D:
Apparently they infiltrated from beneath and gnawed off all the wiring? I don’t know. Rabbits, man.
But what about Isabel Marant for H&M? Anyone???
Personally I always like the concept of special designer collaborations, but in practice I never buy anything from them. Except when something magically shows up on a sale rack months later, like a Comme Des Garcons polka-dotted blouse that I wore half to death, then passed on to my mom.
That… doesn’t look like DotCom to me
Girl, I can only go off what Dot Com tweets from his official account which I follow religiously.
Ooh I stand CORRECTED! (link please)
The three public high schools from the wealthy suburb that I grew up in are ranked on that list from richest (and smallest and whitest) to “poorest”. Poor being the relative term because the median income in that place is $100k . Also, almost all of the charter, private, arts, and magnet schools in the area made it on, and none of the public schools from the big city.
Other suburban schools rely on expensive football programs to remain prestigious. One HS has a $60 million football stadium (they also made the Newsweek list).
Meanwhile, the main city permanently shuttered schools last year, including a few Blue Ribbon award winning schools, and laid off many teachers.
Cleveland? Or is this just a trend with a bunch of other cities, too.
Plano/Dallas? It probably could be a lot of places.
Huh, the high school I went to is listed 7th of all the high schools in my state. That’s pretty cool. The one my siblings went to is ranked 3rd in the state (we didn’t move, we got redistricted). All the schools in the immediate vicinity of my parents’ house are in the top 10 for my state so I’m feeling really thankful that I happened to grow up in a good area for that, even if we weren’t necessarily a picture of the “norm” in that area. What’s nice to see is that the schools that make the list from my state are almost entirely public schools. That’s fun! Yay public school!
I think it’s a list of the top public high schools, which would include arts/magnet/charter as well, I guess.
My high school was #1 on one of these lists a few years ago, and the teachers and students voted at Town Meeting not to participate anymore because it encouraged competitiveness and focused on the wrong things, not the things the school wanted to be known for.
(It was a very hippie liberal upper middle class school in a very liberal upper middle class town.)
What really struck me about Flannery O’Connor’s prayer journal is how similar (in subject matter, obviously not in quality) to my own from that age. I fell out of the habit after I started med school, but my sometimes I go back and read my prayer journals from late high school and college, and I was just so unsure and worried about EVERYTHING. Even dumb things like “Please let that guy I accidentally smiled at in the commons forget how awkward that was.”
Also, I really relate to the way she prayed, without frequent references to Christ or scripture, because I do that too, and always feel like I’m doing it wrong.
Me too! I pray a lot, and my prayers are usually very self-centered (“Please God let that client presentation go well tomorrow”), and then I feel bad I’m not praying more for the needy or to help the Philippines.
I somehow missed the pie link and when I got to the comments and everyone was talking about pie I went “PIE? WHERE??” and scrolled back up immediately.
My cousin’s HS from her ridiculously wealthy Dallas suburb is on that list towards the top, and it’s been a family joke since she entered HS there how garbage can the education is, despite its consistently high rankings. These lists drive me insane.
I think you could just substitute “wealthiest public high schools” for whatever criteria they used for the state I went to high school in and get exactly the same results. Availability of AP courses/ AP tests taken doesn’t tell you much about the quality of the education, but a whole lot about how many students at that school expect to go to college….
Omg can we really talk about Lulu, though? Like…it’s terrible, but everyone I know has downloaded it. How has it not been thoroughly ripped a new one yet? Or at least thoroughly dissected.
(Also, the dudes who show up in my account [yes I have one no judge] are pretty nonexistent in terms of ratings, but a friend of mine in SF says girls in her circle are super active on Lulu and seriously use it as a tool to judge dudes. Does it vary by geography? Are real people actually using it seriously other than that anecdotal group of people in SF??)
misandrist media bias.
I would guess SF has higher usage rates for most apps, just because of the tech culture. Good if you want to power use Yelp, bad if you don’t want to be on Lulu.
Anybody who power uses Yelp probably deserves bad Lulu ratings #sorrynotsorry
Aw, I don’t think it’s so bad? It’s a good way to find restaurants in an area you’re not familiar with, or to try and ascertain the ambiance of a place you haven’t been to before.
Check your iPhone/Android privilege! Unavailable for Windows phone.
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Never fear tho! onlulu.com. Now you too can feel really creepy.
WHOA.
Okay, gonna spend the rest of today giving all married fathers a “10” and ignoring the others.
Oh man, how should I rate gay friends who are now divorced? Should I rate each member of the former couple the same?
CHOICES
I hadn’t even heard of it! I downloaded it this morning out of morbid curiousity, but as far as I could tell none of the guys I’m friends with on Facebook have been rated, so I deleted it. I think my peer group is probably too old for it.
I’m in SF and I signed up for Lulu yesterday to see if anyone I know was rated, and apparently not a single one of my friends is on it.
Here’s the graduating class of America’s Top High School, a shining rainbow of diversity that is a reflection of this great nation:
I spent an inordinate amount of time looking for the entry in which someone mansplained the concept of a buffet, until realizing that it was just a buffet of mansplaining.
“You see, it’s like a bunch of different dishes, kind of like a potluck – you do know what a potluck is, don’t you? – and you can have as much as you want from any of them.”
“Yeah, I know, I used to work in Vegas an–”
“It’s great for things like weddings because it really cuts down on the cost of service, so you can spend more money on booze. Ha HA!”
*raises hand* Same. I was oddly disappointed.
Oh, the top school is in my hometown! Take that, every coastal snob who talks about flyover states and make “Kentuckians are backwards yokels” comments. Guess who has the best public high school, suckers?
Aw yisss, Kentucky. Not that we don’t have our issues, but [some of our] high school[s] are awesome, apparently, and we also have a semi-functioning health care exchange. BASK IN OUR GREATNESS.
(I realize this could come across as snarky. I did not mean it that way. We really are a hella sweet place.)
I didn’t read it as snarky! I think we are great. We also have Vicco (recently profiled on Colbert) and we are responsible for bourbon. YOU’RE WELCOME, AMERICA.
Oh man, can we just get rid of the term “flyover states” altogether? It fills me with rage…
BTW, some of my very dearest friends live in Kentucky and it is quite lovely there! I enjoy visiting! 🙂
Ooh, our rival high school is on the list, but mine isn’t. I guess that validates our snobbery about being the more diverse (…marginally) and less affluent (…even more marginally) school.
I am strangely offended that my high school isn’t on the list but two neighboring schools are. Like hell Pomperaug and Brookfield are better!
Same, except make “two” like, “seven” and just… not us. (Also I lived in a very condensed area, so yes there were 7 schools that close to me.)
11 out of 12 schools in my county are on there. I attended the 12th!
Of course no schools from my hometown are on that list. However, the two high schools from the township next door are there! Not the least surprising since that’s where all the money is. (Though I’m seriously shocked there are no schools from Princeton on that list. Suck it, middle school friends who went to Princeton Day School!)
Just wait until Lulu Phase 2, when all men with less than a 5 rating are mysteriously whisked away in the middle of the night, never to be seen or heard from again.
“First they came for a Reddit user called JizzCreek, and I said nothing…”
“Then they came for the #FartMachines, and I said nothing…”
Whoa, there’s my high school. Too bad that chart is so horribly designed that I can’t understand anything beyond rank, and the “full methodology” link is 404. Since when are SAT scores 7 digits?
I am highly amused that the jr/sr high school in my hometown is listed so high, because when I was in middle school it was also only a middle school and was very much the “bad” middle school. Now it’s apparently a better school than the high falutin other jr/sr schools in the county. Wah wah.
The school where I teach is on that list, although two other high schools in my district that are on the “richer” side of town are much further up the list. I teach in a fairly affluent suburb, but there’s a pretty enormous gap between those schools.
I wish more Dallas high schools or rural Texas schools were on that list, but the only ones on there are private or magnet schools – none of the regular urban or rural public schools. It really drives home how unequal our access to “free public education” really is.
It’s a little fascinating to me that MD, with our rankings of “the richest state in the country” and “some of the best school systems in the country” don’t have more schools on there, and in higher rankings.
My response to Lulu is “what is this I don’t even”. If men did this we would be up in arms; it is similarly not cool for women to do it. Plus, hello heteronormativity, how are you today?
My high school is in the top 8th of the list, and it was pretty white and wealthy compared to some of our neighboring communities (which were also pretty white, but often not as wealthy).
I assumed that link was to someone mansplaining buffets, and was only slightly disappointed.
okay but what i need to know about Lulu is if it automatically posts that you’re doing that on your facebook; i would also like to know if this is true of Tinder because Ann Friedman’s article about it made me super curious but also super wary.
ASKING FOR A FRIEND.
I was really hoping the Loutallica album was seeing a renaissance after Reed’s passing, but this is almost as strange.
I was really hoping the Loutallica album was seeing a renaissance after Reed's passing, but this is almost as strange.
OMG – Turing died from biting into a poisoned apple? Amazing.
So I just want to add something about one of schools from where I am. Yes it is technically public and in the district but you have to test into it. So there’s that to consider when reading the list.
The list for my state was about 50% magnet schools, 50% “sure it’s a public school but all the kids drive BMWs” schools. So….yeah.
I was disappointed too, but it's got recipes for 12 delicious pies on it, so I got over it pretty quick, because PIE.
I think it's a list of the top public high schools, which would include arts/magnet/charter as well, I guess.
My high school was #1 on one of these lists a few years ago, and the teachers and students voted at Town Meeting not to participate anymore because it encouraged competitiveness and focused on the wrong things, not the things the school wanted to be known for.
(It was a very hippie liberal upper middle class school in a very liberal upper middle class town.)
Me too! I pray a lot, and my prayers are usually very self-centered ("Please God let that client presentation go well tomorrow"), and then I feel bad I'm not praying more for the needy or to help the Philippines.