I bought a car, it was an absolute triumph of feminism and negotiation and I will tell you all about it tomorrow in the form of a helpful guide, because I’m picking it up today at noon.
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Why you may be looking at Teen Wolf gifs in another tab right now:
In my public school sex ed class in the ‘90s, they told us that men reach their sexual peak at 18 and women at 35. I always assumed this was in the same category as other BS aphorisms like “boys only want one thing” or “who would buy the cow when he could get the milk for free” — an explanation for dudes’ voracious behavior and an exhortation to resist. Your boyfriend will get off at just about anything, and it’s not his fault, but you aren’t even physically capable of feeling the kind of pleasure you seek.
I was not prepared to hit 35 and find out that it’s totally true.
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A live-action Dumbo is literally the worst idea anyone has ever had.
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I try not to subject you to too much horse content, but this is a perfect example of why dressage makes no sense to a non-dressage audience and also that sports commentators treat everything with a greater intensity than it deserves.
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I am thinking a lot about this piece by Elizabeth Spiers about profiling Shanley Kane.
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On the closing of rural school districts.
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The duality of transgender issues in the United States:
As the trans community wins crucial rights, I am seeing the drive from some quarters to shift focus to issues of mainstream acceptability. Both Janet Mock and Feministing’s own Katherine Cross have called out the way a debate over the word “tranny” has drawn more attention and visible outrage than Jane Doe’s incarceration. I’m not going to pretend language is not important – I’ve spent much of my media career calling out poor press coverage that misgenders trans women and brings up salacious details to construct a victim-blaming narrative when trans women of color are murdered. As I have argued before, this terrible press coverage dehumanizes trans women, paints them as victims who deserve what they get, and therefore contributes to cycles of violence. So yes, words matter. But as Monica Roberts points out, this media disrespect continues, as it showed up in coverage of three of the four murdered trans women of color last month. I wish disrespect of these murdered women garnered the same level of attention as the language used on a game show on Logo.
The whitening of Neymar.
So, yesterday, I went to my Zen teacher’s house, which is up in the hills, as you would expect, and when I entered, she was frozen with fear, and said: “Nicole…you are okay with snakes, right?” and I was all…”yeah, I guess,” being not particularly afraid of snakes, and she pointed to this towel with a huge overturned bowl on it, and then hid upstairs, and I picked up the bowl by the towel, discovering, of course, that the snake was UNDER the towel, not under the bowl, and it ran over my foot and was large and hid behind the couch, and I picked up the towel and pulled the couch away from the wall and grasped the snake and kicked open her side door and tossed it gently down the hill and said something like “little lady, you can come out now,” and was filled with perhaps the greatest sense of accomplishment of my life, and now I think I may also understand masculinity and its appeal?
