What Happens When You Tell People You’re Reading Only Women? -The Toast

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In 2013, I made a small but very personal resolution – that I would spend the year reading only books written by women. 12 months and 40 books later, I published a piece on Flavorwire.com about the project and how it had affected my life. I merely hoped that a couple of people would be touched by the story and also decide to actively read more books by female authors, thus making small strides against an industry that publishes, promotes, and awards more books written by men.

The day that the story was published, I immediately noticed a spike in Twitter followers. People – women and men – were tweeting at me from around the country, telling me they’d decided to take on their own similar only-books-by-women project and asking me to recommend titles I’d read and enjoyed. Even one of my favorite newspapers, The Guardian, dedicated two separate pieces to my story and to the idea of reading only female authors.

But there was also plenty of criticism, as there always is whenever a woman has opinions and an internet connection. People called me sexist, reverse sexist, and a misandrist. One Flavorwire commenter dismissed the significance of focusing on female authors and announced that he would only be reading books by authors who were tall.

I’m thrilled that a little fun personal project I didn’t think much of at first has turned into a phenomenon that even has its own hashtag. But the point of the reading project was to raise awareness about the way that female writers are still seen as less important, less literary, and less canonical than male writers, and even some of the coverage about my work hasn’t changed that.

Case in point: when The Guardian launched its #readwomen2014 project, they interviewed one writer/critic who had vowed to read only female authors in 2014 – a man, Matthew Jakubowski, who explicitly named my Flavorwire story as his inspiration. [Full disclosure: Matthew is an internet-friend and we’re part of a group reading Middlemarch together.] Even when it comes to promoting books by female authors, it’s evidently still more important to ask men what they think in order to legitimize something that might reek too strongly of feminism. Soon, other publications like Time jumped on the bandwagon, praising The Guardian for their idea.

At first, I didn’t say anything. Deep down, there’s a part of me that still believes that a woman wanting credit for her work is arrogant and vain. But the real driving force behind my 2013 project wasn’t simply to know the gender of an author – it was to support women’s stories, to make sure their narratives were heard. Yet it was still difficult to raise my own voice. The internet can often feel like a giant, elaborate game of Telephone. And it’s not as if I was the first person in history to focus on female writers. But I couldn’t help but feel slighted – and like I was losing control of my own narrative.

I told myself that I should be grateful that people were reading books and championing female authors, no matter where they got the idea. That’s what one of my college English professors used to say when he saw undergraduates toting copies of Twilight around campus – “well, at least they’re reading.” A Pew study released last week found that 23 percent of American adults did not read a single book last year. The largest group, 31 percent, read between one and five. There were no options higher than the number 11.

urlAnd, ultimately, it was about the books. Before politics or activism, it was about reading Anzia Yezierska’s Hungry Hearts and catching a sliver of what life was like for my great-grandparents, Jewish immigrants crowding their hopes into the tenements of the Lower East Side. It was about giving Edith Wharton, a writer I’d disliked in college, a second and more sympathetic attempt now that I was old enough to know the pain of femaleness more intimately.

Reading is so much more than looking at words on a page. At least they’re reading, as if a grocery list and a poem could be the same, could each weigh as much as the other. I wanted my reading, a pastime I enjoyed for its quietness and solitude, to also be a declarative statement. Women have always understood that there is more than one path to revolution. Quite simply, I would not be the human I am without having read My Antonia when I was sixteen years old.

watch-how-we-walkThere were also discoveries. One book that randomly caught my eye was Watch How We Walk by an author I’d never heard of, Jennifer LoveGrove. The novel is about a young woman growing up in a devout Jehovah’s Witness family and pushing against the tight confines of the faith while also noticing the cracks growing in her home life. I was immediately yanked into the book, a family drama which eventually turns into a psychological mystery. I read it, hungrily, in bits and pieces, grabbing ten pages on a subway ride and fifteen before falling asleep.

As much fun as it is to read popular and best-selling female authors like Margaret Atwood and Hilary Mantel, Watch How We Walk underpinned everything I’d hoped to accomplish by reading female writers. It was like swimming in a dark sea and finding a seashell. So often, we fall into the trap of selecting The One – the lone female writer who will have to represent all of us, the one who will snag the only available ‘token’ spot among the men, at the expense of lesser-known writers who will have to fight ten times as hard to overcome prejudice.

200px-BeggarsInSpain(1stEd)And there are other ways we feed into the trope of male legitimacy. While reading Nancy Kress’ sci fi novel Beggars in Spain, about a future America where wealthy parents can pay to genetically engineer children who never need to sleep, I kept thinking that if Philip K. Dick had written the book it would have been adapted into a big-budget Hollywood movie already.

Every person who chooses to read books by women this year is a victory, no matter to whom go the spoils. Their money chips away at a book advance and helps convince an editor that she made the right call. Their online reviews give a young marketing assistant something to talk about in her next big meeting. Each reader is a small voice saying, what you have to contribute is important, what you have to say matters. For a woman, that can make all the difference. The chorus is just getting louder.

I recently connected with Dr. Anne Boyd Rioux, a University of New Orleans professor who is working on a book about Constance Fenimore Woolson, a largely-unknown writer from the 19th century who was friends with Henry James and may have inspired Isabel Archer in The Portrait of a Lady. After she read my piece, Dr. Boyd Rioux and I met up for tea and a discussion about why Woolson’s works went ignored even though she was quite successful and popular in her lifetime. And the sad fact is that in 2014 women still have to push to get their writing read, as much as they did in 1914 and in 1814. As long as high school teachers don’t assign Jane Austen because they think teenage boys won’t like her books and the average American only reads one book per year, women are still going to have to scream just to be heard as a whisper. But at least we’re screaming together.

Lilit Marcus is the author of Save the Assistants (Hyperion), plus some stuff for the Wall Street Journal, Glamour, The Atlantic, and The Jewish Daily Forward. Her cat's name is Brisket.

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In college I became antiquated with a group of women heavily into feminism, my exposure to their offhand comments and ideas really shaped me. One in particular was a book club with a special note to reject the classics of great white men who supposedly represented all of human existence. This pushed me to really think about my book purchases and have read almost exclusively woman authors for the past three years. (although my only male author consumed many months of reading time as I worked through ASOIAF, so perhaps I make too strong a claim). It has been wonderful. And now I just need to finish the Goldfinch so I can search on for something else!
YEAH. Yeah!!!

I am trying to only read books by and about women this year, though I'm also trying to work my way through my massive pile of books I bought and haven't read yet. I'm just at an extra-misandrist point right now where I'm not
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(while I want to post an insightful comment about what an interesting project this was, and how unsurprising some of the reactions were, all I can think is, "What parent in their right mind would want a child who DOESN'T SLEEP?!?!?")
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Off topic: Why would you genetically engineer a child that does not sleep, oh my god, this is the most horrifying dystopia ever conceived.

On topic: So seriously, the Guardian did two stories on your idea and they didn't interview you at all?? I guess that goes to show how important projects to raise up women's voices still are ...
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Oh wow, thanks for this followup! I've been a longtime Deliberate Reader of Woman-Authored Works, so I really enjoyed your Flavorwire piece and have been pretty astonished at how #readwomen2014 has blown up lately.

I'll be hanging on to this post for my next link round-up. I'm fascinated by how defensive people--men and women both, really--get in response to the suggestion that we culturally privilege books by men. Last time I had an online dating profile, I stipulated that I'd be more interested in my potential (male) mates if some of their favorite books were by women. The responses were pretty varied. Some of them were happy to discuss the books they loved that were written by women, but many trotted out the usual chestnuts: men can't relate to stories about women; they don't see gender; they like what they like; they don't know of any good ones.

I posted these responses here. Sorry about the caps--it's a feature/bug of my current blog template, unfortunately.
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This was a great piece and I appreciated all of your points, Lilit. But this line stood out to me: "As long as high school teachers don’t assign Jane Austen because they think teenage boys won’t like her books..."

My last high school English teacher assigned The Awakening by Kate Chopin to all but my section because the boys in that class argued for an hour about how they "knew how to treat women," so they shouldn't have to read it. : (
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I read mostly books by women, just out of preference (not for women writers but for... the sort of books they are more likely to write? I don't know, maybe just for women writers), and I would also say that most of my favorite books are by women. Sometimes I wonder if I should feel bad about this, because I would think it was bullshit if someone's reading was as heavily male as mine is female. I honestly haven't thought through it much, except maybe to consider it something like going to a women's college--that it creates a sort of safe space where, paradoxically, I don't really have to think about my gender as much. It can be so tiring and demoralizing to deal with the way women characters are dealt with in a lot of prominent literature by men, for example. Maybe I don't fucking want to put myself in the shoes of a debauched old professor and understand the authenticity of his misogyny, and so on.
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Recommendation time! I've been reading a lot of comics recently, but a lot of the things I hear recommended elsewhere are by either men or Kelly Sue DeConnick, and I love her but I know there have to be more out there. What should I be reading, comrades in Toast?
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So lovely and thoughtful, thank you. The more I read articles like this, the more I thank god my grade 10 English teacher made us read Obasan by Joy Kogawa. At the time I didn't understand why, and the themes were somewhat lost on me, but the more I think about it now, the more I appreciate it. Also love my Canadian lit professor for assigning Margaret Laurence and Susanna Moodie and Alice Munro and poetry by Kogawa and Atwood. (Suck on that, David Gilmour.)
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I had never heard of it, but now I'm really excited to read "Watch How We Walk."
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I don't think I could ever do this; too many of my favorite authors are men (And COME ON the next Discworld book IS ABOUT TRAINS I love trains). But I love that you did, and I would love to hear more recommendations for great genre fiction by women! I've read Beggars in Spain and loved it, I'm rereading Dorothy Sayers' novels, and I think the next thing I'm going to do is reread Sunshine by Robin McKinley. What other great women's writing in fantasy/scifi/mystery would the Toasties recommend?
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Aww man, I really wanted to get into #ReadingWomenIn2014, but this reminded me that a month of 2014 is already gone and I haven't read a single book (by anyone) yet! It's not too late to get back on track, right? :-(
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the real solution is to stop teaching white men how to read
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It's especially disconcerting how so many authors who are women end up with with most absolutely ridiculous book covers. Maybe it's the publishers trying to "figure out what women want," but I pretty quickly recoil if i see a bunch of fields, lace, chiseled men, or something that looks like a Georgia O'Keefe painting.
A lot of women seem to be subverting the "literary fiction" world by more clearly writing genre or YA books
Related: a few years ago I changed my music consumption habits and attempted to have the majority of my listening be female artists. I had noticed that female artists got little to no play on alternative and rock music stations, and I figured that wasn't because they weren't making music. (It is very telling that Lorde is the first woman in 17 years to reach #1 on alternative radio. She is most certainly not the only female artist out there making alternative music!)

I don't think this makes me reverse sexist or anything, but if you went by pure radio airtime you would think the only female artists out there are pop singers. This is why I always cringe when I hear people say "I just don't like to listen to female artists" because if your only real exposure to female singers is hearing Katy Perry on pop radio (nothing against Katy Perry, but she isn't everyone's cup of tea) then you might not realize how many women are doing very interesting things in music.

I liked this: "Each reader is a small voice saying, what you have to contribute is important, what you have to say matters. For a woman, that can make all the difference. The chorus is just getting louder." Replace "reader" with "listener" and I think that is just as important.
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After reading two male mystery writers back to back last August and just feeling so frustrated by each author's treatment of women characters, I decided to finish out the year by only reading books by women (with one exception, David Sedaris's Let's Explore Diabetes with Owls came up from the library after I had it on hold for awhile so I read/listened to the audiobook.)

For those contemplating this challenge but are unsure if they can do it, I think it would be a great baby step to just start with a certain genre. Out of habit/what's available at the used bookstore/what books were hyped, I kept picking up contemporary mysteries by men and the switch over prompted me to finally read Sayers, Christie, P.D. James, and more Kate Atkinson.

Also, I read The Lodger by Marie Belloc Lowndes which oddly, I came by after reading A Moveable Feast. Never thought Hemingway would be the one to point me to a woman author I should read.
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Scanning my bookshelf, I read a decently 50/50 ratio of male to female authors, but I think I have some trouble delving into new authors, or authors that I haven't heard of, at least. I do tend to go toward the ones I've heard lots of people lauding, or ones I already know and love. Maybe I'll start a project of trying out authors-I've-never-heard-of.
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I mean, if we're doing female-author book recs... I really, really love the Devoncroix saga by Donna Boyd (The Passion and The Promise specifically; there's a third but I haven't gotten to it yet). Supernatural/werewolves but actually suspenseful and interesting. Big fan. Have read both of them 5+ times each, which is borderline HP/LOTR-level obsession for me.
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CONSTANCE. FENIMORE. WOOLSON. I got an account just to endorse her awesomeness. In one of her very few surviving letters to Henry James (he wangled his way in charge of her correspondence after her death, and burned nearly all their letters to each other) she pulls a burn by saying something like, "'The Portrait of a Lady'? We'd be hearing from every fellow in America if some lady dared to write 'The Portrait of a Gentleman'!"

Her most-anthologized story is "Miss Grief", which is so, so good (and relevant to this discussion): http://www.readbookonline.net/readOnLine/48597/
Ursula LeGuin is the queen of soft sci-fi. Start with The Left Hand of Darkness and revel in the way the she so deftly and cavalierly plays with gender.
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crispy_lettuce · 582 weeks ago

Why should you even have to defend a year of reading women authors? You've probably still read vastly more books by men than women. We are supposed to assume males are the default human, thus the male viewpoint is neutral, which is just not true. I started reading women only a couple decades ago and found it was a refreshing antidote to the overwhelmingly male-dominated perspective in society. I read to illuminate my own human experience, and have found that women's writing is more likely to resonate and expand my thinking.
Lilit, for the record, I was inspired by your pact to only read women authors and heard it from you first. All the other sad attempts were ash in my ears.
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I run a small press that has promised to publish a minimum of 50% woman-authored books. I get called sexist almost weekly for that promise. And it's not even parity! I get asked all the time how many Great American Novels I reject because they're by men. (Answer: None.) And every single time I'm interviewed about my work by a man, the very first question is some more polite variant of "Why do you hate men?"

It's not even parity! It completely blows my damn mind.
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I did the same thing in 2013, and the response I most often got was: "Why would you limit yourself that way? A lot of great books were written by men."

/headdesk
We read Pride and Prejudice in 12th grade. No one responded as passionately as the boys in my class. There was "Camp Jane" and "Camp Lizzy," and they held heated debates over whether Charlotte's view of marriage was reasonable at all. The girls liked the book, but the boys LOVED it.
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I did this subconsciously, when I look back of my books from the last year they are overwhelmingly by women. I didn't actively try to read books written by women, but now that I have realised I'll admit that it's become more of an influence when I got to read a new book. It really annoys me that in 2014 phrases like your asutely put 'women are still going to have to scream just to be heard as a whisper' are relevant!
I had to delurk for this post because I have been reading primarily (say 85%) women for over a decade now. Not only do I not feel I've missed anything but I think I've gained a lot by having the time to read many female authors who are so good but so underrated -- so I can't resist the chance to share a few of them (in no particular order):

Helen Humphreys (favorite: Afterimage)
Sarah Willis (favorite: Some Things That Stay)
Michelle Hunevan (favorite: Jamesland)
Carol Anshaw (favorite: tie Lucky in the Corner and Carry the One)
Andrea Levy (favorite: Small Island)
Rose Tremain (favorite: Color)
Valerie Martin (favorite: Property)
Scarlett Thomas (favorite: tie End of Mr Y and Going Out)
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (okay she's not really underrated but she's such a fantastic writer, I want everybody to read her books)

And some sf&f writers:

Eleanor Arnason
Karen Lord
Rosemary Kirstein (warning: her books are great but I don't think she's ever going to finish her series)
Candas Jane Dorsey
Laura Mixon
Linda Nagata
Carol Emshwiller

Edited to clean up posting screw-up.
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I'm delurking just to post on this topic. I'm an English Lit major and an ex-bookseller so I've read a lot of books, both men and women. Over time, I found I enjoyed books by women more because they were so varied. I'll mention a few I particularly like (some of which I share with Ferguson):

Rosemary Kirstein sf (she's still working away at the Steerswoman series but in now in treatment for breast cancer so things have slowed down).
Sayers, of course, but not Christie (except for Miss Marple)
Octavia Butler sf (will blow you away)
Kerry Greenwood mystery (just found her about a year ago; she's got two series with very interesting female leads, both set in Australia, one set in the 1920s and one in the present)
Chelsea Quinn Yarbro (if you like historical fiction, her [good] vampire series is the best -- each one is set in a different time and place and the underlying theme is intimacy)
Elizabeth Bear sf/f
And lots and lots more.
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I decided all on my own when I was little that I would only read books with girls as main characters, or if I MUST read a book with a boy as the main character, there would have to be female main supporting characters who were just as fleshed out as the protagonist. This generally meant that I only read books by women, which I was OK with. I still follow this rule for the most part. A friend of mine calls this "voluntary intellectual deprivation," and she's a fan too (she added never reading Orientalist or colonialist books uncritically, which I also agree with). I always figured that the world was trying to press male-centered books with cardboard cutout (or absent) female characters on me as Relevant Classics, so the World would not be hurt by my rejection. I have some favorite male authors (I like Charles Dickens except for that whole Tattycoram business, and I like Fazil Iskander so much that the occasional sexism doesn't throw me off). But probably about 85-90% of what I read is written by women, thanks to my rule.
Shit, I work as a bookseller and noticed that, without even realizing it as I picked them, all but one of my staff picks are by men, and all but one of those men are white men, so once I finish the books I am reading now, I am vowing to Expand My Reading Palate and try to phase out as many white dudes as possible. It's sad to realize that you subconsciously affirmed The System. Thanks, patriarchy!!!
Almost all the "classical" fiction I like is by men and almost all of the contemporary fiction I like is by women. I wonder why that is?
This was a great piece Lilit, thank you for sharing! I'm also working on expanding my reading selections, paying more attention to the authors. For Black History Month, I'm working on reading more black authors. Next month, I, too, will work on reading more women authors in celebration of Women's History Month. But not just for February and March respectively, but for my future reading in general, in order to support authors from all walks of life. Kudos to you!
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I only just found this piece (come to think of it, I have no idea how I got here), but in any case, it has inspired me to focus intensely on reading books (all types) written by women in 2015. I'm off to a good start with Yes Please, Texts From, and Hyperbole and a Half as Christmas money purchases, and Bad Feminist lined up as the next, but I'm eager for more. So far, my search has consisted of Goodreads searches, but if anyone else happens to notice this and would like to make some recommendations, I would appreciate them.

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