The B.Y. Times: The Orthodox Jewish Answer to The Baby-Sitters Club -The Toast

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51+JH3PwNmL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_Despite being raised Jewish, I didn’t really know what a Reform Jew was until I got to college. I had always heard they were less religious, but the nuances were lost on me — I thought Reform Jews were basically just slacking off, like lapsed Catholics. My family must have been Reform, I had figured, because we went to a Orthodox temple but were clearly the least religious there. After going to NYU meeting kids from Westchester who’d grown up eating bacon cheeseburgers on Yom Kippur, I started to notice the differences. My family and I were Conservative Jews. We were just very bad ones.

A more frum peer who knew my family used electricity on Shabbos (not to mention drove halfway to temple and walked the rest of the way, so as to keep up appearances) considered it her duty to educate me. Jews aren’t known for evangelizing — we like being part of a small group — but we will proselytize to other Jews, and Aviva did. She gave me lectures about aveirot, explained why we didn’t eat meat and milk together, and gave me books.

What Happened to Heather Hopkowitz? was her first attempt, about a half-Jewish teenage girl deciding to become more observant after spending a vacation with a Modern Orthodox friend (and meeting a cute boy named Hershel “Heshy” Rabinowitz in the process.) It did make being Orthodox seem a lot more warm and friendly, but when I made it clear I wasn’t going to give up ripping toilet paper and paper towels on Shabbos, Aviva took it a step further and loaned me The B.Y. Times.

The B.Y. Times was a series set in a New York state Bais Yaakov, a private Orthodox Jewish all-girls’ school. The late eighties and early nineties had brought an influx of long-running youth series, and someone at Targum Press decided the Chosen People’s children deserved their own books, too. A woman named Leah Klein, or at least a group of ghostwriters writing under the name Leah Klein, had written them in the early 1990s. They were written in English, but italicized Hebrew and Yiddish phrases popped up on every page, in the characters’ dialogue and in their inner monologues. All the main characters were teen and preteen girls.

“They’re like a Jewish Baby-Sitters Club,” I’d tell my gentile friends. I did not know how correct I was. The characters were even reintroduced in the second chapter of every new installment, just as they were in every other goyish series. Shani Baum was the Kristy, an enterprising eighth-grader who had started a school newspaper. Batya Ben-Levi was the Mary Anne, a shy, sensitive only child. Ilana Silver was the Dawn Schafer, a blonde California girl moved to the tiny shtetl of Bloomfield, New York. Even the health food obsession was the same: Ilana’s parents ran a kosher health food store.

There couldn’t be a middle grades series without a set of twins, so Leah gave us Chaya-Rochel and Penina Chinn, otherwise known as Chinky and Pinky. Chinky — who I hope to G-d pronounced her nickname with a Hebrew chet — was straight-laced and pragmatic, always wearing her hair in a “no-nonsense ponytail.” Pinky was a visual artist who dressed in the coolest, but still tznius, outfits and loved junk food. Sound familiar?

There were others. Raizy Segal was a talented writer often said to have a “near-genius” IQ.  Chani was a petite brunette who took over as editor-in-chief after Shani graduated — very confusing to those of us starting in the middle of the series — and then came her successor, the eager, newly religious Jen Farber. The best character by far, though, was “spunky,” fiery redhead Nechama Orenstein. With her bad puns, curly hair, and kickass machanayim ball skills, she was the BSC’s Abby before Abby. Nechama was the boldest of the Bais Yaakov girls. She would tell you why you sucked to your face, and then kick your ass, in a shin-length jean skirt. At least, that’s what I liked to imagine she did on days off from the paper.

Plots and conflicts were usually pretty simple — Chinky is overcommitted, Chani is worried about her Bat Mitzvah, Nechama is pissed off about something — and they tried to keep it current. An influx of Russian Jews from the crumbling Soviet Union tested some friendships, and a computer virus launched by a disgruntled goy college student nicknamed “Superhacker” (it was mentioned that he hadn’t gotten into the fraternity he’d wanted to join, which showed that Leah Klein knew even less about hackers than she did about Gentiles) shut down Dusty, the newspaper’s trusted word processor. Most memorably, Batya was in Israel for a wedding when the Gulf War broke out, and spent her days decorating gas masks to make them more friendly and playing with her cousin in the bomb shelter. And this wasn’t even one of the “Super Specials.”

It was one reason among many these books appealed to me, the same reason Addy’s books were the best of all the American Girl doll books: They had stakes. They had drama. (You might not win the speech contest, Samantha? Addy was force-fed worms by a slavemaster after her brother and father were fucking sold. Kind of puts things into perspective, doesn’t it, Sammy?) Batya’s cousin Yaffa nearly getting killed by a broken overhead light after a scud missile was intercepted near their block was way more interesting than Stacey McGill or Elizabeth Wakefield moping over some guy. One Chanukah present I asked for but never got was Operation Firestorm, a mystery companion book about the aftermath of an arson attack at Bais Yaakov Bloomfield. No one was hurt, but the girls got to hunt down the terrorists who set it, which was about the most badass thing I could think of. This was before September 11th, which may make it seem absurd: An exciting children’s book about a hate crime? Well, yes, because in the author’s eyes, it was realistic. Observant Jews are taught that they have been, and could be, under attack at any time. Those visiting or moving to Israel have to be especially prepared — a friend who grew up in Israel says fighting terrorists is a common trope in Israeli children’s literature. Even though she was publishing in the U.S., Leah Klein had to tackle serious issues, because this was what Orthodox girls were thinking about. Of course Chinky worried the lost wallet in the Jerusalem hotel might be a bomb, she was the practical one.

Leah Klein also couldn’t rely on one of the easiest and most ubiquitous plot points in girls’ fiction: The Rumor. One of the major sins of Orthodox Judaism is lashon hara, or malicious gossip, and in some circles, it’s considered as grave a sin as murder. Every time a character (usually Nechama) was about to badmouth another, someone (usually Raizy or Chinky) would step in and say “Isn’t that lashon hara?” It made it seem so easy. There was no talmudic reasoning, not even anything like the fight Aviva and I had over whether my refusing to say “It’s OK” immediately after she apologized meant I was “breaking the Jewish Law.” Everyone in Bloomfield just learned to obey the Torah, and everyone was almost uncannily happy by the end of the book.

The world of the books was conservative and antiquated, and proudly so. For all the similarities to the BSC, the girls never babysat for money, just cared for their siblings because it was what a daughter did. None of them ever talked about what they wanted to be when they grow up, other than mothers. All women were happy to have children and keep Shabbos. No one questioned authority. No child ever knew better than their elders. If a parent or teacher relented, it was because they had seen the error of their ways on their own, not because one of the girls had shown them the way. There were a few “olive-skinned” Mizrahi girls, but no Ethiopian Jews, at all. Gentiles were written broadly, as if they were simpler people, and it was embarrassing to be newly frum. Zionism was a given: The girls went to Jerusalem more often than they went to New York City. Israel was a land of miracles, cheerier than Disneyland, and always welcoming. Eretz Yisrael was theirs for the taking. It seemed extreme and insular even when I was nine.

Still, I loved The B.Y. Times. Aviva and I would play pretend and jump from character to character, fighting over who got to be Nechama and who had to be Batya. These girls felt real. They didn’t celebrate Halloween and didn’t give each other presents for Chanukah like we did, and they dressed and talked differently, but they were me. Maybe it was the same as identifying with whichever Disney princess had your color hair: They were Jewish, so they were like me. They were in the tribe. They understood.

The books are now out of print, and near impossible to find. A used copy of Summer Daze — the one where they go to camp, of course — is on sale on Barnes and Noble for $1,044.22, about $1,039.22 more than I paid for mine in 1997. (There are some in my parents’ house, buried in the garage somewhere, if anyone wants to give me a few hundred dollars.) The last one was likely written about 1996. Leah Klein and her compatriots at Targum Press put out a few more series for kids before that division folded. Baker’s Dozen was about a family named Baker with twelve children — and you thought you had problems, Mallory Pike — and Batya and Nechama made a guest appearance in the first book. There was also a B.Y. Times Kid Sisters series about Rivky Segal, Naomi Kaufman, and Sarah Chinn, three younger sisters ostensibly less annoying than Karen Brewer. None of them lasted very long, and they’re even rarer than The B.Y. Times.

On a Jewish site, I found and bought a used copy of Batya’s Search, one of the few I never finished. I read it again, for the first time in seventeen years, to see what it was like. I wasn’t expecting it to be a great work of fiction, and it wasn’t, but it wasn’t terrible. Reading it as an grown-up secular feminist did mean picking up on even more unfortunate implications and themes than I had eighteen years ago. Nechama’s hair is described as “an Afro?” Batya is horrified at the possibility of her friend’s brother going to public school? Anya’s mother was a concert pianist in the Soviet Union, but now is happy just to be a wife and an Ima?

Despite my discomfort, I was left with a feeling of longing. Not a longing to be more religious, like the first time, but for the feeling of sisterhood. The world of the B.Y. Times was a girls’ world. When Pinky obsessed about being eight pounds overweight, the other girls told her she could lose weight if she wanted to, but they loved her just the way she was. There were sleepovers and pacts of sisterhood. The only boys they talked about were their brothers or their Abbas or some famous wise rabbis. If they had questions, they could ask the wise Rebbetzin. They had an inner sanctum, a safe space within a strict patriarchy.

I had thought these books were written exclusively for Orthodox Jewish girls, but maybe the net was cast a little wider than that. Maybe Targum Press wanted to show those of us who weren’t so religious that we could still have fun while frum. That despite the more advantages and opportunities given to secular women, it felt good to be chosen and belong. As Ayala Fader wrote in the book Mitzvah Girls, about raising Hasidic daughters, in contrast to the Babysitter’s Club’s message of DIY and independence, The B.Y. Times’ characters “learn to be satisfied with what they have.” They had done that for me, instilled a desire to be more Jewish. Aviva and I talked about how I’d be frum “when I grew up,” though that never happened. (Not too long after I could no longer find copies of The B.Y. Times in stores, someone gave me The Golden Compass, and started me down another path.)

There isn’t much documentation on what happened to The B.Y. Times. No record of how they sold, no write-ups in The Jewish Press. It’s as if the books never existed. This, I think, is a shame, and I don’t think it’s because I’m nostalgic. While they aren’t excellent books, they are revelatory. There’s still so much I don’t know about Judaism, but so much of what I do know I learned from these books. Nothing reveals more about a society than its minutiae, the little things everyone in it takes for granted. For all their simplicity, The B.Y. Times books were a rare glimpse into the everyday lives of girls in a sheltered, misunderstood, patriarchal world.

Mara Wilson's debut book Where Am I Now? will be available through Viking/Penguin Books in Fall 2016. She writes at MaraWilsonWritesStuff.com, hosts her show What Are You Afraid Of? in New York City, and ruins childhoods all over the internet.

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I had no idea these existed but I want to read them so badly now. What a great essay.
I read What Happened to Heather Hopokowitz? at least 20 times when I was a kid- I think I'm the only person who ever checked it out of our synagogue's library. I found a copy at The Last Bookstore in L.A. last year and FREAKED OUT because I almost thought I'd made it up. Our family is very leniently Conservative as well, and I had a bit of an obsession with reading about the lives of people who were more religious than we were (our synagogue was pretty relaxed as well). My favorite was one about a girl whose family moved to a kibbutz in Israel and who fell in love with a Palestinian boy who lived across the river from her (I can't remember the name, but if someone else does, I will bake you a million cookies to say thank you).

I never heard of the B.Y. Times, and now I'm sad that I probably won't ever get to read them.
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Is it "One More River" by Lynne Reid Banks?
YES! Thank you so much, oh my goodness, I need to see if I can find it from any used sellers! You are a rock star!
I don't remember the title, either, but I remember that book, too! OK I looked it up and I'm pretty sure it was One More River by Lynne Reid Banks. At the beginning of the book the girl is sneaking bacon at her friend's house, right?
Yes that's it! I need to get a copy of it because I didn't even remember that they were Canadian and not American. I'm so glad someone else read it!
I had a similar reading fascination as a kid! I was never really religious at all (I went to church as a kid and then spent a lot of time at my friends' Hebrew school before eventually co-leading the high school Yiddish club, but my religious feeling ranged from indifferent to very loud atheist), but I was still drawn to stories about people who were much more religious than me -- there was always something appealing to me either about characters/people who had really firm convictions in something, or about imagining living by this set of strict rules and guidelines. I think I would have been obsesssssed with these books in late elementary school.

(Of course I still read a ton of middle grade and YA books about Orthodox Jewish girls, but now it's more because I'm a school librarian trying to build a diverse collection.)
Oh my gosh, this is fascinating. I was raised Jewish, and something about reading about these books just strikes a similar chord. It's a weird mix of strangeness and familiarity, I guess.

I don't know how to describe the uncomfortable twilight-zone feeling when it comes to memories of organized religion. It's such a weird mix of the comfort of being a part of something and bizarre conditional-kindness and arbitrary, often subjugating/oppressive rules.

Thank you for writing about these// sharing this.
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Kschenkel · 525 weeks ago

I come from Catholic family and I'd say we were placed somewhere square in the middle as far as strict devotion to the faith (we occasionally missed church for instance, but it was mostly expected that we go every week) and between that and actually going to Catholic school, I know what you mean. There are a lot of elements to mass that are comforting to me - the like clock work set of prayers, readings, blessings and song in just the right order, not to mention things like the smell of incense and the feel of the hymnals) but then there are elements that are so foreign to me now as an agnostic.
automatically falling into reciting the Nicene Creed at the end of Easy Rider last week while simultaneously actually thinking about the words and going WTF at the way the rote memorization and group recitations weekly/biweekly as a kid (Catholic school, also, K-12!) are actually kind of creepy in a YA dystopia way, and don't leave room for questioning (at least, not while you're part of that group oneness, obv, since I left it behind in my early 20s)
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Something Clever · 525 weeks ago

If I had only known about lashon hara in school! Those orthodox kids were vicious.
SHUT THE FRONT DOOR. I WENT TO BAIS YAAKOV AND GREW UP WITH THESE BOOKS HOW ARE THEY HERE. WORLDS COLLIDING AAAAHHHHH
"For all the similarities to the BSC, the girls never babysat for money, just cared for their siblings because it was what a daughter did."

The Babysitters Club: Ayn Rand's The B.Y. Times
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Maybe it's because I'm only a mishling (with a shiksa mother), but I read that sentence and did an Ayn Randian "WHAAAAAAAAT??" Babysitting is exhausting. Quit giving your valuable labor away for free, girls!
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canadienne · 525 weeks ago

AAAAH THIS WAS SUCH A DELIGHT.
we were pretty far from religious growing up, relying mostly on what my mother felt was an arbitrarily appropriate amount of 'jewish-ness' to display at any time (so we were devout during high holidays, but defensive about bacon, i guess).

i adored the BSC when i was little (#TEAMCLAUDIA), and it's a wonderful mix of delight and oddity to see this reinterpretation of What Young Girls Can Do as a theme in jewish literature.
I am amazed I've never heard of these. One of my best friends in high school was a Raizy and I knew several Chayas, including a Chaya-Rochel (my Hebrew middle name is also Rochel, though my liberal parents switched to a less religious shul when I was a kid b/c they thought it sucked that girls couldn't have their Bat Mitzvahs on a Saturday, and I went to a secular girls' school). Maybe we can get Lizzie Skurnick to bring these back into print . . . I have a weird nostalgia for all my Yeshiva girl friends.
Mara, you captured so much of what I loved about Bais Yaakov - the sisterhood and the girls-only space to be weird and awkward and bold. I loved Nechama. But I was always more of a Raizy, what are you gonna do.

If you want a glimpse of an actual Bais Yaakov, from whose library I took out B.Y. Times books: http://the-toast.net/2014/06/20/giggly-girl-causi...
Is everyone just too cool to give Mara Wilson a high-five for her feud with E.L. James? Because I am NOT.
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AHAHA I forgot about that! Good stuff, good stuff.
I didn't know about this, but now I <3 her even more.
OMG, I didn't realize that Mara Wilson is also the of-Night-Vale Mara Wilson! TOO GREAT.
Wow. I had no idea. *claps furiously*
First a takedown of Beauty and the Beast, now MaraWritesStuff! The Toast is the gift that keeps on giving.
This is really interesting, your description of your family's approach & practices as you described them is 100% in line with traditionalist Judaism (masoratiyut מסורתיות) which is common for Middle Eastern/North African Jews -- the idea that some mitzvot/issurim are more important than others, and tha it's fine to let go of the less important ones because we want to live in modern society, BUT we also want to keep the traditions of our parents and grandparents, so everything is always done within the Orthodox framework (because Reform Judaism is an Ashkenazi thing)... and then there's the contempt both Haredi & secular Jews hold for this type of religiosity (the mocking Israeli phrase is: dati lefi da'ati דתי לפי דעתי, "religious only when I feel like it") -- IDK, I was just really struck by how everything here is very familiar to me, but I'm assuming from your last name & the contents of this piece that you're Ashkenazi? Is your family somehow connected to Israel/the MENA region? Sorry if this is a weird and intrusive question, and that I'm focusing so much on something so tangential to your piece. But as a Moroccan Jew it's pretty amazing to find such a familiar description on an English-language site -- we're always somehow absent from the conversation. Thank you for this, & for the rest of the piece. Haredi pop culture is super fascinating.
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I can't speak for the author, but I know a surprising number of American Ashkenazim like this.
It's really interesting to me to compare my upbringing/experience as an American Jew with my fiancé's as a French/Tunisian Jew. I was raised… I don't even know, probably "Progressive" (we were part of a "Jewish Community Group" and I attended Hebrew classes and Jewish culture/religion/history classes, but we were not members of a synagogue and only went to services on the High Holy Days or for bar/bat mitzvahs, celebrated Pesach and cleared the house of chametz but didn't keep Kosher…) ) My father isn't Jewish (he's an ex-Catholic), though while I was in middle school he started attending Torah classes I guess in solidarity? My mother was raised pretty secularly. Our group was very open and accepting - there were a number of members who either weren't Jewish but were considering conversion, or who were like two girls I was friends with, who had a Jewish father and a non-Jewish mother who hadn't converted (and the girls hadn't converted, either), but who were being raised as Jews. My fiancé's immediate family isn't particularly observant - I know more Hebrew than he does, since he basically just memorized his Torah portion for his bar mitzvah and promptly forgot everything afterwards, and they don't keep Kosher. However, there is no real concept of "Reform" Judaism, so when holidays are observed or formal events happen, they're Conservative/Orthodox in nature - the food is Kosher, the wine is Kosher (and also *terrible*, I can actually say that the worst wine I've ever had was at a wedding in *France*), the ceremonies are full and patriarchical, (though there is definitely hypocrisy still there - Shabbat dinner before the wedding, his cousin (bride's older sister) tried on the dress and shoes she intended to wear to the wedding and discovered that the dress had been shortened too much for the height of the heels, and got very upset because it was Shabbat and thus she wouldn't be able to go buy new shoes before the wedding - but she continued to use her smartphone). I want to have a religious wedding ceremony because it is meaningful to me culturally, but I want to have it the way I'm used to - Progressive/Reform, probably a female Rabbi - and this, for his family, causes more confusion/consternation than if we were to not have a religious ceremony at all. It's so sort of bizarre to me to behave secularly most of the time and then go, not all out, but far enough, when it's time to be observant, whereas the Judaism I grew up with simply allowed for that secularity.
But that's the thing, what's so 'hypocritical' about not wanting to make a monetary transaction on shabbat (= actual work) and being okay with smartphones (= not actual work)? It makes perfect sense?...
I read this whole piece and all the comments before I realized it was written by Mara Wilson (HI MARA hello hey).
this is completely fascinating.
Ahhh! I read these too, despite being Conservative: my parents would drive us up to Lakewood every six months or so to get kosher meat and they'd set me loose in the bookstore. I don't know if I owned any but I read many of them. The only other person I've ever met who knew about them was one of my Orthodox cousins: I spent a Pesach I was supposed to spend bonding with her reading her entire collection. (Chinky was the best, and eventually became head editor of the newspaper, IIRC.) They were wonderful pablum.
More Mara please! Even if it was just a post of her retweets.
I have never read/heard of The BY Times, because I grew up about 10 years after their hey-day, but a much older friend gave me Whatever Happened to Heather Hopkowitz and even though my family was already fairly observant and I didn't need converting, it resonated hugely with me, just because it was a book about a Nice Jewish Girl. That's why I loved All Of A Kind Family too, even though it was set a century in the past. Jewish girls! Doing normal girl things! While also spending a lot of time in synagogue! What a revelation! The Jewish picture book genre is currently pretty great, but I wish there was more modern day Jewish middle-grade fiction. Representation, even for white girls (but who still are a cultural minority), is important.
I had never heard of these books (super secular, but Bat Mitzvah'ed, Jew) and I'm super intrigued. Loved this piece so much.
This is fascinating! Thanks for sharing. I didn't read BSC, but I did read the Dear America and American Girl books, and I had ALMOST FORGOTTEN about Addy being force-fed worms, holy shit.
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That is the part that to this day sticks out to me from the entire series - through all the different characters, even - and really shaped a lot of my thoughts about race as a kid because how could you DO that???
Yeah -- and recalling it now, I'm shocked they included that in a children's series, but I'm so glad they did.
I grew up in a traditional Jewish home, going to Orthodox synagogue and school, defined as "Conservadox" for a while, and really only now beginning to forge my own Jewish path. And I never heard about these books - I think it's our age difference - I'm certain these books would have been all the rage in my school...that is, between our sneaking off to non-parental zones to read Judy Blume's Forever. :) Also, really interesting to read your thoughts on your Jewish identity - such a multifaceted thing, contemporary Jewish identity, and something I enjoy writing and reading about, too. :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
This was a great piece! I devoured the Baker's Dozen books when I was about twelve years old. They were so popular, everyone in my tiny ultra-Orthodox Jewish school seemed to be reading them. I also always felt that longing when I read frum tween books, that longing to be more religious, part of a large, fun, bustling Jewish tween community or something. I actually did become observant at around this time, though not as frum as a lot of the characters in these books...and I still feel a pang of longing/nostalgia when I'm in very frum environments or neighborhoods! Orthodox fiction is so strangely soothing.
Oh my god, I just want to spend an afternoon reading these now. There's really no website where they've been uploaded? Not even one? Mara, help!

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