I called him Henry. Henry was much like a houseguest who had overstayed his welcome. While he was no trouble to begin with — and in fact, I barely noticed him at all — after 12 to 18 months, our relationship was beginning to strain. He popped in and out whenever he wanted; he didn’t exactly cause any trouble but I always knew he was there, taking up valuable real estate and eventually, I was going to have to get rid of him.
Recently, the time came to do just that.
Turns out, it’s comparatively much easier to get rid of a long-term houseguest than it is to remove an inguinal hernia. Yes, I named my hernia Henry, and yes, it took 18 months before I bothered doing anything about it. I am apparently terrible at looking after myself.
The thing is, the hernia itself wasn’t really ever painful. An inguinal hernia is basically just a lump of fat or intestines that decides to break through a weak layer in the abdominal wall. It ends up looking like a weird, soft lump on your groin that can easily be pushed back in — or at least, mine could — and it didn’t exactly stop me from living an active life. I still went to gym classes two or three times a week, jogged, played sport, and skied or hiked on the weekend. There is an excellent chance that this active lifestyle is what caused Henry to show up in the first place.
But because inguinal hernias (there are many many other kinds of hernias) are generally considered more of a men’s health issue than women’s, it took awhile for me to figure out what was even wrong. In the last few months, Henry started to show himself more, and I felt a dull sense of discomfort every time he popped out. Because of the general region of my discomfort, googling symptoms (never a good idea) made it seem as though I had anything from ovarian cysts to cancer, until I finally spoke to some people IRL who suggested it might be a hernia.
By the time I finally saw a doctor and had an ultrasound to confirm the hernia, the doctor recommended I have surgery as soon as possible. Apparently Henry wasn’t just a benign (if annoying) friend. He was never going to go away on his own, and could actually “strangulate” my small intestines — that’s when the hernia can’t be pushed back in, and can result in a trip to the emergency room.
Long story short — I had the surgery. I figured it was better to do while I was young (-ish) and healthy. Also, my surgeon told me that it was better to repair before pregnancy, as the pressure could make the hernia even bigger. While I wasn’t planning on getting knocked up any time soon, all the signs pointed to the fact that this was something that I should probably deal with.
The surgery itself was pretty straightforward, although still fairly terrifying for someone who has never so much as had wisdom teeth removed. And I really wasn’t prepared for how much pain would be involved in recovery. The actions of sitting, walking, rolling over, or really, doing absolutely anything vaguely related to my core was painful even when I was pumped full of codeine. The general anaesthetic made me dizzy and lightheaded, but eating was also annoying because I had a sore throat and lacked appetite. As someone who has always been healthy, it was a shock to realize this fairly minor surgery had a lot of repercussions — including a warning to avoid strenuous exercise for six weeks.
More than the discomfort, though, I was amazed at how little information seemed to be available for cis women with inguinal hernias. While certainly the stereotype of old men and hospital patients is fairly accurate (men are nearly 25 times more likely than women to develop inguinal hernias), 3% of women will develop inguinal hernias in their lifetime. I can’t help but wonder if those statistics are still in date — with the rise of “fitspo” on Instagram and the popularity of high-intensity workouts or weights-based training programs like Crossfit, it’s not a stretch to assume that number of female patients will rise.
Essentially, anything that causes an increase in pressure in the abdomen can cause a hernia — like lifting heavy objects or persistent coughing. But because of cis men’s anatomy (i.e. balls), hernias are more common and the pain is generally more acute earlier on, leading to faster diagnosis. For cis women, the symptoms are similar to other women’s health problems, such as ovarian cysts, which means we’re more likely to put up with discomfort or pain for years, exacerbating symptoms by activities such as exercising, lifting children, or having sex.
Being aware of how you lift, and the risks associated with over-straining in workouts is essential to avoiding hernias. At the same time, not being embarrassed of symptoms, and checking out anything that might be unusual down there is important too.
Perhaps due to the lack of information out there, people tended to react with disbelief or embarrassment when I told them I needed time off for a hernia repair. “What exactly is that?” they’d ask, while eyeing my groin and clearly picturing some kind of hysterectomy. Men generally blushed and muttered something about a speedy recovery, before hastily exiting.
I can understand — the words “groin”, “lump”, and “surgery” don’t exactly conjure up a nice image when you’re chatting around the water cooler. But it’s this kind of lack of knowledge about hernias that can be dangerous. If hernias are relatively common (repairs are one of the most common types of general surgery operations, with 28 per 100,000 in the U.S), and apparently a hidden health risk for active men and women, why aren’t we talking about it?
Post surgery, I was fine. A little sore and a big baby when it came to painkillers, sure, but fine. But many women out there who may be lifting weights, carrying kids, or generally living an active lifestyle may experience pain or discomfort without realising what’s wrong — or be too embarrassed to take the next step to fix the problem.
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CleverManka 143p · 467 weeks ago
rkfire 117p · 467 weeks ago
chineseotaku 64p · 467 weeks ago
(also, thanks for writing this piece!)
rkfire 117p · 467 weeks ago
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askelade 126p · 467 weeks ago
I have had many many patients over the years who come to me worried they have cancer and when I tell them they have an inguinal hernia, the response is invariably "but... women can't have that."
Aside from exercise-related causes, the other huge cause of increased pressure inside the abdomen of people-with-uteruses is... pregnancy and birth. Most of my hernia patients are middle-aged and have given birth before. Their hernias have grown slowly, slowly, over many years. But I have another patient with a hernia now, and plans for surgery soon, who is 25. (She's also given birth vaginally four times.)
desilvamargaret 36p · 467 weeks ago
nocturnal_ninja 0p · 467 weeks ago
I didn't know it's that uncommon in women. I might have a genetic predisposition since my dad had the same thing and I was so little when I got it. But no one paid any attention to it. It would pop in and out all the time.
I recovered after being prohibited to even lift my schoolbag for 3 months and now I am trying to lift weights to get stronger.
But I lifted 20 kilos the other day and my hernia scar felt funny. Maybe I shouldn't suck it up and ignore the weird sensation.
I am glad you are better and I hope Henry never returns again.
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rishmololo 95p · 467 weeks ago
I'm still mad at my parents for dismissing their children's pain as discomfort that can be cure by time and teeth-gritting. See also my seasonal allergies that were so bad I would wake up and not be able to open my eyes because they were crusted shut. No medicine for me! And I still had to mow the lawn.
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min · 467 weeks ago
then i made an appointment with a surgeon to get it looked at. the guy was so ready to cut me open, he practically wanted to schedule the surgery for right then and there. that made me uncomfortable, as well as his complete cluelessness when i asked him about whether or not i should continue exercising (i weight lift). he just looked baffled at the question of exercise in general.
so, i made an appointment with a different surgeon for a second opinion. this guy told me that the chances of it becoming strangulated were very slim and advised waiting until the hernia actually caused pain before getting it repaired because after surgery, i would forever experience some discomfort from the scar tissue and whatnot. so, why do it now when the hernia is not bothering me? also, when i asked if i needed to curtail my weight lifting or any other activities, he said 'no'. i could continue doing whatever i'd been doing. i liked this guy better, ofc, because a) he wasn't confused by the idea of me exercising and b) he gave me the answer i wanted to hear. clearly.
it's been over 2 years at this point. oddly, any time i feel discomfort (rarely), it's never where my Henry is. it's usually several inches above the lump and just feels like a little pull. and i've noticed he gets bigger in the week leading up to my period then almost magically recedes once it starts. or if i've been eating way too much.
just thought i'd share since, as you've stated, info for women with inguinal hernias is scarce on the interwebs.
Thequeenmum · 467 weeks ago
I'm a high anxiety "fix it now!" type of person, and the surgeon was willing to fix it. My voice of reason was my friend, a surgical nurse, who said that fixing it now would cause far more problems than it was actually causing me (there is currently no pain, no strangulation, I'm still able to exercise, etc). So I'm happily working out still, ignoring it for the most part, and I'll take care of it when it becomes a problem.
Donna · 467 weeks ago
"Yup, that looks like a lipoma. But I want a surgeon to look at this other one."
At the surgeon's office:
"I want to schedule an MRI to look at that bulge."
"Okay. By the way, I also have this lump lower down that my doctor thought was probably a lipoma..."
"Yeah, that's common."
Two or weeks later, the day before Christmas Eve, I'm making cookies, not worried about the scheduled MRI, when I start realizing I feel kind of crappy. I go lie down to rest for a minute, and look at my abdomen - and notice a golf ball-sized lump in my groin. It's not going anywhere. I call the surgeon's on-call doctor, and she tells me to get to an ER.
So, yes. That "lipoma" was now an incarcerated (one step down from strangulated) inguinal hernia, and I had emergency hernia surgery at midnight the night before Christmas Eve. On the bright side, I'm apparently in an elite group - I like to think of us as the top 3% of women!
The bottom line I took from the experience was that when I feel like something is just not quite right, I should probably be a little more pushy about making doctors look at it. On the other hand, the MRI they did right before the surgery showed that the other, original bulge doesn't need attention. Or at least not yet.
RocketJSquirrel · 467 weeks ago
Second, I had a double inguinal hernia repair as an infant. I had always been told that it was very rare for a female to have a hernia. After reading all these hernia sufferers' comments, I guess I'm not as special as I was lead to believe. :-(
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