Disrupting Domesticity

  1. Ashley Ford's previous Disrupting Domesticity posts for The Butter can be found here. Every year since 2011, on the first Monday of July, poet and advocate Bassey Ikpi holds a #NoShameDay on Twitter. People living with mental illnesses or mental health issues—people like me—are asked to share their stories in a safe and supportive way. It’s an opportunity to connect. I try to participate on Twitter each year, but this year I thought I’d…

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  2. Ashley Ford's previous columns for The Butter can be found here. When Kel moved into our apartment, it wasn’t exactly legal. That is to say, he is not, nor has he ever been, on the lease for our apartment. He is, however, a fully functioning member of our household. He cleans, he cooks, he puts furniture together, and he knows more of the neighbors than I do. He has a place for his things—most…

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  3. Ashley Ford's previous columns for The Butter can be found here. I know it happens. I’ve read books and watched movies, and I know. Whenever kids say they’re bored, I say, “That’s because you’re being boring.” I’ve lived my life according to that belief. If I’m bored, it’s because I’m choosing not to entertain myself, not because there’s nothing stimulating enough to occupy my time. But relationships don’t work the same way. We may…

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  4. Previously in Disrupting Domesticity: Take Care. Since Kelly moved in, I’ve taken three flights that did not include him. One to say good-bye to my dying grandmother, one to Austin for SXSW, and one back home to Indiana to celebrate the love of two people I adore. Each time, Kelly helped me pack, or made me breakfast before I left, or even made the trek to the airport to see…

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  5. Disrupting Domesticity is a new column recounting the innumerable lessons learned and mistakes made when two young lovers decide to shack up for the first time in their lives. It will publish on alternate Wednesdays on The Butter. You will be able to read all future installments here. Just as the pilot landed at JFK, I pressed the little airplane on my phone to wake it up. I’m still trying to figure out how…

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