By Ginny Brown

Ginny Brown is a writer and sexuality educator living in Philadelphia.

  1. June 2001 I open an official college letter with the names of my roommate and two suitemates for my freshman year. The roommate is Joy S------. It is strange to look at this stranger’s name and think that I will see her every day for most of the next year, and right now I know nothing about her. I send her a nervous introductory email. Her reply has several signs that make me hopeful: she…