Skin Jersey Thong, $15 (was $26) OK, sorry to put underwear straight up in your face today, but I’d like to talk about something: why is it SO hard to find 100% cotton underwear anymore? And another thing: padded bras. Who needs ’em!?
Spear Pressure Earrings, $9 (were $18) Stick-like earrings are wonderful, mainly because if you lose one you can still wear the other one alone or with a hoop and you just look cool instead of frazzled and clueless.
L’Oreal Feria Smokey Pink Haircolor, $8.49 (was $9.99) Not much of a sale here but this sure is a pretty color. Moving on.
Jonathan Adler Goldie Hex Tote, $118.99 (was $398) Love to all things Goldie.
AX Paris Dip Hem Dress, $51 (was $81) This seems like it would be better styled as a tunic but, either way, here are the perfect boots to complete the look:
Zara Leather Ankle Boots, $49 You know how sometimes you’re like “Zara, we don’t all work in banks,” and then other times you’re like, “BUT ZARA, I WORK IN A BANK!”
Whish Hair Inhibiting Gel, $12.95 (was $26) Took way too long to figure out what this was. Does anyone use a product besides space lasers to keep their body hair from growing and does it work?
Free People Black Moonlight Romper, $39.95 (was $128) Who wants to start a romper war? Team Romper over here. Peeing half naked in public restrooms is worth it. “Worth what?,” you ask? That’s for Team Romper to know and you to find out.
Tompkins Petrified Wood Desk, $1,499.99 (was $1,995) You can have this but only if you promise to introduce every visitor to your petrified wood desk and then stroke it’s surface lovingly, whispering, “It’s okay; mama’s here now.”
Unless you’re wearing a shirt under your romper, I’m pretty sure you’re peeing full-naked in public restrooms.
#TeamAntiRomper
EXACTLY.
This seems like the appropriate time to tell you all that yesterday I tried on an H&M romper thinking it was a dress and didn’t realize my mistake until my waist was crammed through one of the leg holes.
#TeamAntiRomper
one of my friends had this dress freshman year of college with a weird extra flap of fabric she always complained about – turned out it was a romper and she didn’t realize it for like 9 months.
I also hate when clothes are suddenly and unexpectedly pants
“Romper” is too playful and childish a garment for a grown woman. Maybe I’d be more into them if they had a different name, like “Order” or “Shouter” and were marketed for the convenience of not having to choose two (TWO) different articles of clothing.
I do love being a child, but I don’t want people (males) treating me childishly. Maybe I can be a child and no one else can see me, especially not a man, in this romper. That I’m about to order. So I may romp.
A grown woman CAN get a dignified garment with the convenience of not having to choose two different articles of clothing. It is called a “dress.”
Plus dresses allow for no-frills, no-nudity peeing in the woods.
I don’t like taking off all my clothes to pee
#RompersAreForToddlersNotAdults
If you want to have the “peeing naked in the bathroom” and the fit problem go for jumpsuits. I think they’ve been worn by adults… sometimes.
I’m not actually sure they should be for toddlers, either. I think that’s a lot to manage for someone who hasn’t been using a toilet for very long.
Three words for cotton knickers:
Marks And Spencer.
(no joke, I live in their cotton multi-pack knickers but usually my in-laws send them as birthday presents, BUT M&S now ships to the US!!)
Amen to that.
I strongly suspect that all of my knickers come from M&S. They’re so straightforward!
For plus sizes: I know Lane Bryant is a corporate juggernaut, but I can’t live without their cotton hipster undies. (Although now that I think about it, they probably have a small percentage of spandex. Is that not allowed?)
Yes, they are fabulous–and they last forever, the elastic doesn’t unravel or rip out, just A+ all around.
Worrrrrrrrd. I wear these (bikini cut tho) 99.9% of the time and have no complaints at all.
Ugh recently they stopped doing their multi-packs in all one colour, so if I want my chosen colour of undies (black), I have to get a couple of white pairs and a beige pair as well? JUST GIVE ME THE BLACK ONES, M&S.
Honestly, the underwear at M&S is my English BF’s “thing I miss most about England”. He says they are comfy and durable.
They are. MrChouffe loves them. His mom just sent us each a couple of packs of underwear and I swear, the boxer-briefs are the softest, comfiest articles of clothing in our house. They’re great.
I think I will be making a stop when we are in England. My underwear drawer is a mess.
Cotton-wise: I get most of my undies from Aerie but am slowly buying up the Uniqlo boxer style when I am in places that have Uniqlos.
A good pal of mine is really pumped on her first pair of MeUndies. I do not understand what modal is, help?
modal is basically rayon. It’s made from wood pulp. It functions like a softer, less durable form of cotton. So still breathable etc.
I stopped in Aerie for undies earlier this week because of an emergency (last-minute date when I was wearing ugly undies) but the underwear was mostly really cute and cotton! So I might go back even though I am not a teen.
Seconded. That’s who saved me. I was unfortunately suffering from an infection (TMI?) last week for which 100% cotton underwear was recommended, and that’s where I ultimately managed to find some after several attempts.
I am very interested in the underwear and somehow the link doesn’t work with my computer. help please?
I don’t find it that hard to get cotton underwear, I just go to Target. The problem of course is that then you have to sort through all the disorganized mess to find your preferred fit.
Yeah all my underwear comes from Target, unless it comes from HEMA, which also has cheap cotton underwear. I think I’m not posh-aspiring enough for this to be a problem?
I used to buy so many of those!! But French HEMA does not carry clothes except stockings for some reason. My sister recently went to some HEMA press event where they were introducing pretty fancy looking new facial oils and I want to try them, but alas, our HEMA is not on board yet.
My coworkers were disparaging HEMA makeup earlier because it seemed weird to them to buy lip crayons next to snacks and I was like that’s literally the best part, you cannot get delicious stroopwafels at Sephora.
To be fair, HEMA does have the best stockings. At least the Dutch HEMAs do. They’re so great!
Where in France are you? In Paris, at least, I get the impression that the HEMA on Faubourg Saint-Antoine might have more on offer than the other stores. Kind of like the Marks and Spencer at Beaugrenelle being three floors and offering clothes that the other stores don’t.
Also Paris! I go to the little one near Richelieu Drouot
I mean, I’m not even buying Target underwear, just the multipacks of Hanes or Jockey.
(I really wish Hanes would sell 6-packs of all black the way they do of all white though)
Why don’t they do that?! It frustrates me so much.
But Hanes DOESN’T sell 6-packs of all white anymore, at least not anywhere that I’ve been able to find, not even on the website. Except for granny panties, which I do not want.
See, I am a full brief kind of girl, so I am cool with the granny panties thing.
You can get all-black packs of Jockey on Amazon!
Or if you ask nicely at a Jockey Outlet
I love the Hanes 6-pack from Target! I just cannot bring myself to pay more that $5 a piece for cotton underwear. Fancy underwear, I get, but not casual lounging stuff.
ETA: bras, tho, I will never ever cheap out on.
me too #cheapunderweardontcare
My people! Though I’m more of a Fruit of the Loom girl than a Hanes person.
Also, Jockey for her. I love them.
Target has started selling three-packs of 100% cotton briefs that look basically identical to men’s briefs, except without the pouch in front. They are supremely comfortable and all that I buy anymore.
I really like the “cotton” undies from La Senza and they’re always going on 7 for $25 sale. The crotch is certainly cotton and the rest seem like they have a little bit of spandex, but they’re not ludirously high cut in the leg like some store packs can be.
Where are the unpadded bras?!
I gained a bit a weight recently, and my bra size went up (cup and band) and it is now a FULL STRUGGLE to find reasonably priced bras without padding. I don’t know if all the bras changed, or its a matter of the bras that are available in my size, but I finally feel like my boobs do not need to be any bigger, and all I can find are bras that make them bigger!
/ does anyone have tips for keeping my button ups from gapping at the chest.
What’s your range for reasonably priced in this case? I’ve bought a lot from Nordstrom, Etsy, and a local independent shop, usually starting at around $30. You’ll definitely pay more for underwire instead of a bralette, but you could take a look at Aerie (yes, the teen brand) for some cheaper options.
I think around $30 is reasonable, though honestly I wouldn’t want to pay much more than that unless there is something really special about it. I feel like I wear bras into the ground and if they are too expensive I get sort of guilty about it? Though I guess that same reasoning could be employed to justify a more “investment” purchase. Thanks for the leads, any specific Etsy shop recommendations?
I love Ohhh Lulu on Etsy, although they’re definitely more “investment” and don’t have underwire. Really lovely construction and fabric. TatianasThreads is cute, and I’ve been meaning to try HannaBroer. You could also check out Bluestockings Boutique, an independent online shop!
VS always has unlined bras on sale because no one wants them for some reason. I just got a few for about $30 each.
I second the Aerie recommendation if they have your size! They have “lightly lined” (which to me just seems to mean the cup is molded and not floppy fabric) bras that are simple and comfortable. If you sign up for emails or check their site occasionally, they have many, frequent sales to buy one bra, get one for [____]. Plus free shipping. They’ve also held up well and I’m not a bra handwasher. Signed, an adult who wears teen bras.
I loovveee aerie bras because they are: (a) pretty cheap, and (b) available in a 30A. completely unlined bras for me mean “why am I even bothering with this bullshit.”
signed, another adult who wears teen bras.
Nordstrom Rack is where I buy all my bras, I am a ride-or-die Wacoal fan and need a large size and I can get them there for 20 – 30 bucks each (retail price: $hahano).
Seconded on Wacoal (my HG is the Basic Beauty t-shirt bra) – I don’t even mind paying full price, because they are the most comfortable bras I’ve ever owned and that’s worth it to me!
Yeah, very belated third to the Wacoal party. I was all about those up until I outrgrew even their standard retail sizes. (Prima Donna for my new G-H cup sizes!) The Nordstrom Rack trick is to get really good at knowing the right size for you, since the discounted price doesn’t come with cheerful ladies ogling and poking you for fit advice. If you aren’t at that level yet, consider going into the retail-priced department store and finding a single wacoal that fits like a song. The not-fancy models will cost closer to $50 and you can wear them into the ground but it might take 2-4 years.
I’m past 40, and Aerie (yes, the teen brand) is my new favorite. I would happily be their new spokesmodel in place of Emma Roberts. Strangely, they haven’t offered yet.
Like the poster above who recommended Soma for underwear, I swear by their bras. A lot of unpadded, smooth, supportive options and in a broader size range than your Victoria’s Secrets and Targets of the world!
As for the button gap, I tend just safety pin, but that double sided boob tape (Hollywood Secrets is one brand?) is also very clutch.
(They also are lined just thick enough to avoid the A/C nipple problem referenced below! Soma for everyone!)
Not for me 🙁 They are all excited about their range of cup sizes, but I am sadly beyond it.
Yeah. Last I checked they didn’t get anywhere near my size (30E/F).
They go up to G, but I find it’s a small G.
You can get sticvk-on Velcro dots at the craft section of Walmart. Wear the shirt while you decide where to place the dots. Works great, sometimes they come off in the wash but then you just put in another.
Fanciest option for button-down gap solving (short of actually having shirts made to fit I guess, whatever, no one is that fancy) is sewing a hook and eye closure at the point where it gaps. Very easy to do, very discreet, nicely permanent.
As far as unpadded bras goes, I like Freya pretty well, though that may be entirely out of your budget (though I suppose they must go on sale somewhere at some point…) I myself am large enough in the chest that I rejoice any time I can find a bra that fits at all, and damn the cost (also i tend to have a maximum of two fitting bras at any time (at this particular time I have zero that fit, and only one that I can kind of wear, so I try really hard not to get sweaty during the week because I can only really wash it on Saturday because it will never be dry in time for the next morning otherwise and I really should just go buy more bras but the bra store closed several years ago and I just can’t work up the energy to order three dozen bras and then send them all back again. Don’t be like me.)).
Freya- don’t work at all for me, but I see them quite often on sale at Amazon and Nordstrom rack.
Ok you talked me into it – just made an Amazon order! Sadly though, all the ones that were $19.99-$62.99 ended up being $62.99 when I selected my size. But whatever. Maybe one of them will fit at least.
I spent last weekend spending $$s on bras- boobs are 100% comfier this week. Totally worth it! Fingers crossed you find some that fit!
If you’re open to lightly used, bratabase and r/BraSwap are other bra shopping options, although they work best when you know what brand/ style you want.
Ooo, I would certainly be open to a lightly used bra! I will have to wait and see exactly what size I am these days, but I will tuck that away for the future.
Hook and eye idea is brilliant. I sew, already have hook & eyes, and everything else I would need to do this. Kind of kicking myself for not thinking of it.
Bra washing: Lay out bra on bath towel and fold the rest of the towel. Squish out all the excess water and then leave it to dry on the towel rack/shower rod/back of chair and it’ll be dry in the morning, I promise! I do this all the time and I am a larger boobed-lady, and it works with my heavy duty sports bras even!
Marks and Spencers bras are all machine washable – the main reason why I can’t face any other brand of bra. M&S have got me for life.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/kristinchirico/i-tried-ou…
Maybe one of these?
The woman in that article–her frown is magnificent!
I love Kristin Chirico and her human-Grumpy-Cat frown.
#goals
Thank you for this link- I am now reading her archives…
Of course! Kristin is the bomb.
I don’t think I’ve ever owned any padded bras, so maybe once you get into the largest sizes it’s easier; I wear an H cup usually, and the majority of bras in my size seem to be unpadded (because volume is something I do not need more of). All of my bras are from Bravissimo.
This is my bra. I wear these or I wear Hanes cotton sports bras (which are the only sports bras I have ever found that are comfortable, which is probably because they don’t actually do much more than a regular bra, but they are cotton so I don’t mind sweating in them and all my exercise is yoga or biking so it doesn’t matter). They do not have padding or wires.
I love those things. They (the Bali) come in cotton or nylon, and the nylon ones are a smidge more supportive. I’m still tempted to wear the cotton in hot weather, even under a clingy sundress, because sweating into nylon is icky. Not having padding or wires makes them easy to wash in the sink.
Try Her Room- herroom.com. You can sort by unpadded, most popular in your size, and a host of other categories, plus they have a handy size calculator that helped me find my new size. You just need a $5 body measureing tape thingy from Amazon and you’re in business.
I bought a couple last week from Additionnelle. Their bras are all ‘Deese’ (sorry, no accent options on this keyboard), so you have to try every one.
Additionnelle is a Canadian chain for plus sizes. http://www.additionelle.com/en/plus-size-lingerie…
And poot! Just saw the ones I bought marked down to $35CDN (about $28USD).
Wacoal definitely makes those thin material bras. As a woman who spent a long time nursing, I need a very structured bra to make all this boob flesh into a boob shape.
BUT! The gaping chest thing! My sister told me about this thing she saw on Shark Tank and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. http://www.skinnyshirt.com/ So I bought it (I found a discount code). And it works and is kind of awesome. I regret buying the shirt with tails, though, because the gaps on the side go up REALLY high. But otherwise the shirt is pretty awesome and looks perfect under sweaters or button up cardis.
OK ROMPERS BUT romper sexy lingerie guys. I’m in the anti camp; bestie is pro. I theorize that it has to do with how fast you want to get naked once fooling around commences. Other thoughts/theories welcome.
to me the only point of sexy lingerie is the kind you can actually keep on during sex things – like, garter and stockings, sure, weird body suit thing, no. And mostly I like to, say, wear stockings under jeans for a surprise. Also it’s been at least a decade since I was with anyone who cared at all about that sort of thing, so.
the kind you can actually keep on during sex — these are my exact thoughts! Or at least can keep on for some of the action. For cuteness.
Agent Provocateur makes some really pretty ones with open gussets so that they don’t have to come off at all! I bought the Iana one because it was too pretty to let pass by.
There’s always this option! http://www.aliexpress.com/w/wholesale-vinyl-leota… 😀 😉
I feel like it wouldn’t be too hard to just *make* a sexy romper/playsuit/thingy into an ouvert style – just snip the center crotch seam and then use fray stop or nail polish maybe to keep it from shredding if it’s nylon.
i want that desk so badly
i don’t even use desks it’s just so pretty
I was just thinking about buying a new bag…
FYI, the bag is out of stock online! I have also been stalking new bags, and was debating whether or not I was going to give up my search for a fair trade new bag when I saw this one, but alas, it’s sold out. :/
Damn. #goodlookinout tho
Anyone have any go-to bag buying spots?
I’m going to check back on this thread to get more ideas, but I’m fixated on this idea of buying an ethical/fair trade bag that is work appropriate and has modern styling, so I’ve been checking out the following websites:
<a href=”http://-http://www.purseandclutch.com/” target=”_blank”>-http://www.purseandclutch.com/
<a href=”http://-http://www.gunasthebrand.com/” target=”_blank”>-http://www.gunasthebrand.com/
<a href=”http://-http://ssekodesigns.com/shop/bucket-bags.html” target=”_blank”>-http://ssekodesigns.com/shop/bucket-bags.html
However, I haven’t bought my Holy Grail work/casual shoulder bag that can fit a 13 inch laptop yet, so please take those above suggestions with a grain of salt. ^^ Also, I realize you might not be fixated on that kind of criteria, but I thought I might share them anyway in case you are or if other people are.
Nisolo has excellent ethically-made bags! There aren’t a huge range of styles, but for a person with minimalist (aka boring) style, they’re perfect!
This is not fashion-y and basically just a tote, but I love it and take it everywhere, and it’s supposed to be ethically made. https://www.everlane.com/collections/womens-backp…
This is actually pretty dope! I especially like the navy/brown combo. Are there compartments/pockets inside?
Yeah, there’s one pocket hanging down inside, it doesn’t close on top, and it’s not big enough for a book. I usually keep pens, keys, and my wallet in it, to give you an idea of size.
I feel like those Feria pastel kits are going to lead to a lot of tears as people 1) don’t realize you need to bleach your hair or 2) bleach their hair themselves.
I had that same thought, but now I’m wondering if it’d be pretty on my (strawberry blonde) hair anyway? Hmmmm…
I bet it would give you nice pink tones!
no! I just bought and used this kit a week ago, definitely recommend bleaching or only using on already VERY light blonde hair. I used it on bleached hair and it still didn’t grab very well on some less-light more yellow parts (I didn’t tone it first). Also I’ve washed twice and it’s already hella faded. Skip it and go to Sally’s if you want pastel hair yourself.
I don’t even know how they’re saying this is “permanent” color — to my knowledge, there ARE no “crazy color” process permanent dyes. You lighten (bleach), and then use a pigment-depositing color (Manic Panic, Pravana, whatever).
To get a pink that light, your base hair color needs to be palest palest yellow, like an unripe peeled banana. My natural color is super dark brown, and it takes two bleachings just to get it somewhere close to “lemon.”
I’ve seen a few cosmetologists write worried posts about those dye kits, because they are SO LIKELY to turn out terrible at home and be expensive and difficult to fix at a salon.
Yeah I have a friend who specializes in funky colors and she’s like, “thanks for the new business Feria, hee hee hee.”
I have thick black hair that I would kill to make pastel but I know myself. Not gonna happen, because like – 6 packets of bleach, at a conservative estimate. Sigh.
a pastel streak might be achievable?
I bleached my hair myself throughout college (before dying it bright red), it turned out perfectly fine every time. I am still shocked at how terribly that all could have gone but somehow didn’t.
I have a theory that we all have a guardian angel of something- my sister has a guardian angel of shoes she wants in her size and on sale, several people I know have guardian angels of parking spots, etc.- and I think that might be yours!
I am shocked I *didn’t* bleach my hair in college. I’m dying it that weird gray/purple color soon but I’m trusting a pro this time- I’ve home dyed my hair for over a decade but have never had to bleach it. I’m so nervous!
Yeah, Feria is the WORST to color-correct, too.
Dude Feria is the worst *period*. I’ve used every drugstore hair dye in existence, and that shit gave me more damage than all the rest of them combined.
When I used to want blue-black hair I tried Feria several times–it made my hair a dark purple in the sunlight, but it quickly faded to lighter than my real hair color!
I eventually just started using Bigen, which is deposit-only but surprisingly permanent and true black.
Hrm, I might look into that next time I go back to black! I’ve been using John Frieda’s blue-black, which, I think it might fade a teeny bit quicker than Preference, but the foam saturates SO well, I never have missed spots, it’s much less drippy/messy, and it seems to stain my skin/scalp a bit less.
Bigen comes as a powder you have to mix with water. It comes in orange boxes and is usually cheapest at Asian grocery stores. It’s a good idea to buy a pointy-tipped bottle and something plastic or wooden to stir it with, since shaking never mixes it enough.. It’s pretty thick and easy to apply with the pointy tip plus a wide-toothed comb, and I’m really shitty with hair stuff. But my natural hair color is nearly black to start with, so maybe I’m terrible at it and never noticed!
It’s kinda perfumey but it never bothered me. And it was permanent enough to give me roots, though once I stopped dying my hair it faded enough not to be noticeable–but again, I have naturally pretty dark hair.
I’ve been tempted to buy the one two shades lighter than blue-black to cover up my grays. I still haven’t decided how I feel about them.
I bleached my hair with a “go blonde” kit…. result, orange hair. Which I dyed over with dark purple and it turned out fine, so yeah. Don’t aim for pastel first off imo. Now I use actual bleach and it works a lot better.
I need padded bras, not for anything related to size, but because I work in an office with the A/C turned up to “Arctic” at all times and I don’t want clients or coworkers noticing my nipples.
Legit. But also, have you considered bras marketed as t-shirt bras? I think hiding nipples is their raison d’etre.
I am an idiot who has just had a revelation about “t-shirt bras.” I have a specific bra that I like, so go and buy just that and don’t tromp around browsing, so had only heard the name. I figured it was *made* of t-shirt material. Which, now that I type that out, doesn’t even make sense. I am the worst at this.
Nothing idiotic about buying the same one over and over if it works for you. I have my Wacoal style numbers memorized so I can (sometimes) find them cheap on ebay.
Bra shopping is terrible.
These are smooth-cupped and not super-padded, like they don’t add a cup size or whatever. And my office is damn freezing, so I’m good.
Hey, man, it’s not your fault you have nipples.
I was at a VS once and I spent a lot of time trying to find that one pair of cotton underwear because while VS panties are cute and colourful, I will not buy anything which isn’t cotton. BUT those panties are cute and pink and the softest.
VS: a study in contradictions.
Right? I typically cannot find a) my size in bras or b) any appealing colors/patterns, and yet my two favorite bras EVER came from there. They day the broke and were outgrown, respectively, I was inconsolable.
I can’t quite break my VS habit. Inevitably the underwear I order online ends up being chintzier and neon-er than I want it to be, but I know my size and a flattering cut and I’m too nervous/complacent to try anywhere else.
I live in their Body by Victoria cotton hiphuggers because I’m too lazy to experiment and find out what other cuts are comfy and flattering.
Hiphuggers are the only panties to wear, lbh. I don’t know why anyone bothers with anything else.
Once a year or so I go to VS and buy a bunch of bikini/hiphugger-style undies. Every time they try to sell me bras and get cranky when I point out that they don’t have my size, no I don’t want to try one on just to see, no I don’t want your credit card. I get that the undies are a loss leader and a way of getting you into the door, and I’m sure the employees are pushed hard to sell bras and credit cards, but leave me aloooone I just want undies.
I always feel extremely old and ugly as sin when I go into Aerie, but their cotton underwear is so comfortable and there are plain colours *and* fun patterns, full-coverage styles in large enough sizes, and usually a 7/$30 sale. If nothing changes, I’ll probably be shopping there until I’m 80 and the optics are really strange.
I almost only wear Aerie underwear. I recently bought these boybriefs (stupid name but whatever) https://www.ae.com/aerie-logo-boybrief-indigo-hea… in alllll the colors and have no regrets because the waistband is so soft and comfy. Aerie 4 lyfe, basically.
Yes, I have so many pairs of Aerie boy brief underwear, including at least 2 pairs with polar bears on them ’cause you know… POLAR BEAR butt! 🙂
I HAVE THOSE! Undie twins.
Oh man, I love their novelty/”season” underwear too. I try to hold back on buying it because I am an Adult but like sometimes you just need underwear with beach umbrellas or Christmas trees on it.
Yes, I generally try and balance my polar bear type pairs with some solid colour adult-ish pairs.
I’m in my 40s, and regularly buy the Charter Club underwear at Macy’s, because it’s cotton, reasonably priced, and fairly well-made. Some of them are admittedly novelty/non-adult prints, but they make me happy, so I don’t care. I’m currently wearing a pair with sheep on them.
I missed out on the polar bears, but I did notice when I was unwrapping my last order that I hadn’t looked over super carefully that my subconscious apparently likes stars on my underwear (seriously half of them had stars).
AND they last FOREVER
Yup yup yup. I buy most of my underwear from there, although I am mortified if I’m there on a weekend and it’s full of 13 year olds.
I am going to an AERIE OUTLET next week. So much underwear.
I went in there as a pregnant 35 year old last month to buy lots of stretchy bras and new undies and the 16 year olds working there were so confused by my presence. But damn it, I am not paying more than $15 for tiny pieces of stretchy fabric for my boobs.
omg yes. And worse, I spent like 45 minutes there one night, sweating and sifting through the after christmas sale bins so I could buy my pregnant fat-butt *even cheaper* underpants.
Plus, pregnant or not, I only really like “cheeky” styles (who names these?), which have always seemed like the most diplomatic compromise between thongs and pantylines. But based on the rarity of the style, I assume I’m in the minority here.
All I buy are cheeky style underwear! Mostly ones with lacy trims because that makes me feel good about myself, but yeah, I completely agree about them being the compromise between thongs and pantylines!
“The most diplomatic compromise” is exactly why I wear them and you phrased it perfectly. And yeah, other than Aerie and VS, I don’t know of a way to consistently lay hands on them, and the VS ones are always way too lacy and unravel-prone.
Just poked their website, and DEAR GOD, where where they twenty years ago when I hated bra shopping and had itty bitty titties? I would have loved all those bralette styles.
Hell, I might buy two of them now. I don’t need much support. But I dunno if my big’ol boobs will fit in them.
I just bought a couple of their large bralettes for wearing with swingy spaghetti-strap dresses where I’d actually prefer my boobs get tamped down a bit and not push the front of my dress way out. Not the most comfortable, but mostly when I’m wearing them I’m walking to and from my car/Starbucks/someone’s house, so nbd.
“And another thing: padded bras. Who needs ’em!?”
Me. I need them. I’m real glad that you have visible boobs and all, and I’ma let you finish, but wearing any comfortable or loose-fitting shirt gives me the flattest chest of all time. Of ALL TIME.
We needs them, precious.
I will totally trade you my over-sized lady lumps for a willowy silhouette (especially if it means I can wear the gorgeous dress from last week’s bin.)
Hah! You need to talk to my high-school self – she would have been all for it and had the silhouette to make it happen. These days it’s less “willowy” and more “pregnant pear with two mosquito bites.” Turns out, when this particular body gains weight, it goes everywhere and anywhere else first.
That is not to say I don’t love my body the way it is. Or at least, I’m trying. But it does get more and more comically shaped as time goes on, which amuses and bemuses me.
“Pregnant pear with two mosquito bites.” That’s hilarious. I don’t seem to gain weight in the chest area either. My sister–who was about 80 pounds all through high school–put on weight as she got older, and while she’s FINALLY put some on elsewhere, at first it was only going to her breasts and butt. So not fair.
Same. I was just going to post that I love that phrase/find it entirely applicable to me. And all my weight gain goes to my belly. So frustrating!
Yeah, I may not “need” them but ngl I like to wear padded bras. It just makes me feel more proportionate.
Exactly! I have smallish boobs and a big stomach. I just like to look not pregnant all the time. Give me padded bras forever.
Word. Flat chest-bump to you, Rocketship.
So as a similarly flat-chested lady, do you take your shirt off and squint and try to see if people would think you’re boy and you can go topless in the summer? I feel like… with confidence… I almost could.
One time my friends and I were sunbathing topless and we had complete consensus that when lying on my back, my boobs are in fact concave (or is it convex? At any rate- anti-boobs).
Concave (’cause it goes in like a cave. that’s the only reason I remember it). and same.
WHY HAD I NOT NOTICED THAT BEFORE I mean the “concave = cave” thing.
That’s genius and painfully obvious and I thank you because I will never confuse concave and convex again.
I have big boobs, but an even bigger belly and ngl I do wear a padded bra sometimes just to try and even out the proportions (aaaand even then I get ppl at work or at orchestra asking when the baby is due fml 🙅👎🚫)
Why are people still asking that question, seriously.
I probably have 15-20 black pairs of these Gap bikinis: http://www.gap.com/products/low-rise-bikini-P1942…
They are on sale right now and are tagless, 100% cotton, and hold up really well.
the gap breathe underwear is great too, I’m slowly replacing all my less comfortable underwear with them
So, the 7% spandex mentioned in the link is just the waistband, or? I’ve always had major sensory issues and I LOVE tagless things, so inquiring minds want to know.
All of my Gap underwear now seems to come with giant tags so check the comments.
I have also noticed this; a little booklet of tags along my bum. Not sure why they started doing that. I love gap boyshorts.
Toast wars are pretty civilized. Genteel, really. 😉
My favorite wars. I get to read people’s differing opinions, all expressed politely and with each side represented. So lovely.
I am #TeamAntiRomper as well as #TeamAntiThong. Seriously, I think both of those are torture devices.
My sister swears thongs are comfortable, but I. Just. Cannot.
It always feels like I either have a wedgie rubbing on some sensitive bits, or a floss rubbing on some sensitive bits. Maybe I just need to move around less?
I would only wear a thong for my ex if he would promise to take it off me fast.
Butt floss.
Ugh, also: thongs wick bacteria back down to your vagina and then BAM! Bacterial vaginosis.
I saw those pastel box kits the other day when I was out to redo my punky purple stripe, and it made me wonder if that means the pastel thing is going out of style. If your grandma can get it at the grocery store is it really on trend anymore?
I don’t usually worry about stuff like that so I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me.
Anyway I had been thinking that the next time I had money for an actual dye and cut (i.e. never) I might do a whole head pastel thing but now I’m kind of afraid I’ll be like the tenth person to ask for it in a row and the stylist will hate me.
I saw a girl on the train the other day with basically my same haircut but dyed mermaid-colors, and now I can’t get it out of my head. But I know that if I go to a salon and ask them to do that, I will a) be a giant copycat and b) have a lot less money at the end of it.
Have also considered the pastel thing. Maybe it is worth the money and/or stylist-hate??
Yeah. Right now I do super cheap bleach-and-dye on just a small part of my hair. I know going for the whole thing professionally will take time (I’m assuming at least 2 appointments) and money, plus a lot of maintenance. And I get really really oddly anxious about hair stylists–I have more anxiety getting my hair done than going to the dentist or doctor or anything–so I’m afraid that the next time I sit down in a chair they’ll say “Brown?” and I’ll nod and smile vaguely. But then I see the Instagrams of the pretty dye jobs and I just want them all.
DO NOT USE THE FERIA PASTELS KIT! Read here for further info <a href=”http://(http://hellogiggles.com/hairdo-or-dye/)” target=”_blank”>(http://hellogiggles.com/hairdo-or-dye/) but in case you are tl;dr – ACTUALLY MELTING HAIR. Every hair stylist I know has had someone come to them from after using one of these kits in complete tears.
– love, someone who’s hair was Feria Chocolate Cherry from 2002-2004.
I used it over freshly bleached hair and it didn’t melt or break. Depends on your hair! The example of melting hair seems to be on someone who went from box dyed black to pastel which…duh. I would however only recommend if you are somewhat experienced dying and bleaching your own hair and also super into having a high maintenance hair color that needs touching up like every other week.
Fair enough! Absolutely If you know what you’re doing and it’s already bleached (Feria’s bleach burned my scalp as a punk teen, idk, my recommendation is just go to Sally’s if you’re so gung ho at doing it at home) , it should work out fine. But a lot of people just buy the box and are like ‘Magic did not happen’????
yeah it worked fine for me too (over VERY bleached hair) but faded like a motherfucker. permanent my arse. still the smokey purple one is SO GORGEOUS.
I’ve had better results with Special FX – use a bright version of the shade you want and mix in an equal amount of conditioner to dilute it so you end up with a pastel shade at the end!
A better link (yours was borked)… http://hellogiggles.com/hairdo-or-dye/
But yeah, colour does not lift colour. If you want to go from stark black to pastel, it’s going to be a massive NOPE if you try to DIY. Better to leave that to the pros. So it’s no wonder the colourists quoted in the blog post are horrified.
(That said, anyone remember the Feria temporary mousse colours? I did that a couple of times in the early or mid 2000s. No issues for me; I forget the exact colours I used, but they had a nice effect on my ashy brown hair.)
I was just getting my hair bleached in preparation for a new round of deep pink on Monday, and my stylist was telling me about the unfortunate troubles she’s seen with that stuff. Such a shame.
I was also Chocolate Cherry from 2002-2004. Maybe 2006? That was the best color. (until I learned i could just go pink)
Hanes or Jockey cotton bikini packs. On their websites or Amazon.
If you’re interested in bright or pastel or otherwise unnatural colored hair but don’t want to bleach etc. you might try http://overtone.co/ It’s a line of color depositing conditioner. I have been using it for months and because it’s actually color depositing, it still works on non-bleached hair (to varying degrees, of course. Not gonna make black hair magically pastel.) They have a tiny sample size under $10 you can try!
I really really really have been wanting to try overtone for a while. The dress code at my job is fairly lax, but I don’t know how they’d feel about purple hair. I want it, though!
Ohhhh mannnnn. I’ve wanted purple hair for a while but I’m too scared to go get it dyed. The cost tho! Is it worth it…
If you’re doing overtones, seriously just do it at home. I even bleach my hair at home, but overtones is just, seriously so easy. Buy purple hair dye such as Special Effects, Manic Panic, Directions, etc. This kind of dye is conditioning, and you cannot fry your hair with it. Your worst case scenario is dying your skin too, which you can prevent by wearing gloves and putting vaseline around your hairline, and any dye goes away in a day or two if you do somehow get it on your skin. You can mix it into your conditioner if you want as well.
I’ve had pink highlights for about 10 years now, because middle aged women are invisible, and while I used to swear by Special Effects Atomic Pink done at home, I actually got a longer lasting colour from L’Oreal done by my hairdresser.
The Special Effects doesn’t stick to white hair very well, while the L’Oreal is now over six months in place.
Lord knows what it does on youthful hair.
I bought the romper! I haven’t worn a romper since the 70s, and now my torso is much longer as well as equipped with boobs, so I have concerns. But I was looking at a New York Dolls album right before I clicked on the link, plus it was actually only $29 and it seemed like fate.
earring model’s bitchy resting face is on point
I feel you about the underwear. They’re all weird cotton-poly/rayon blends now. Yeah, they feel softer, but they aren’t as breathable.
A Primark recently opened up near me and I found out that they sell multi-packs of 100% cotton underwear in numerous colors and styles for very cheap. They are somewhat thin, but have held up pretty well so far. (Their tights selection, btw, is awesome).
The absolute best, sturdiest cotton underwear I’ve ever found is made by American Apparel (it’s the baby rib bikinis). But it’s like, $10 per pair.
I have a lot of guilt about Primark re: slave labor, BUT THEIR UNDERWEAR AND TIGHTS ARE AMAZING.
Primark as an experience kind of gives me hives but the tights/socks are amazing and mostly of surprisingly good quality. (The price, too –I feel awful about this, but it’s a *joy* to chuck tights when they get raggedy knowing I can get a three pack for like five bucks.)
I know I am soooo late to this but I used to buy all of the American Apparel underwear! I loved it. I would buy 3 packs and whatever ridiculous combos were on sale. I usually found them for $3 or $4 online on super sale, as long as I didn’t care about terrible colors. I haven’t bought any in 5 or so years but mine are all still going strong!
When do we get to hear about the great “baby foot” experiment of 2016? Inquiring minds want to know!
I am possibly very uncool but I’m a bit surprised by the unskeptical enthusiasm for baby foot? Some internet searching has told me that the active ingredient is AHA but nobody seems to know what concentration it’s at, and it’s unclear what regulatory bodies have approved it. It just seems like kind of a drastic thing to just jump into experimenting with…anyone have more information?
I keep wondering about what happens if you get it on parts of your foot that don’t have dry skin layers that can come off painlessly? Like, what if you get the stuff on the top of your foot? Will the AHA just give you wicked burns?
The way you wear the bootie, the solution does get all over your foot. My experience was that if there is no excess of dead skin, there is no ill effect. (That said, I would not do it again because turns out my calluses are there for a reason.)
This is exactly why I want to know more about it. I mean…how much acid am I really prepared to use on my feet? I’m scared AND fascinated!
I bought it and am still too afraid to try it. When am I going to be alone for enough days that no one will see my disgustingly peely feet? That is the question.
I did it too! And it burned like hell so after 18 minutes I gave up and washed it off. Only, much to my amazement, my feet started peeling 4 days later. And they did the week long peel and left beautiful feet underneath. I’m a convert.
Re: Cotton Underwear
Yeah, when my favorite plus-size microfiber underwear went up from $16 to $32 per pair while the quality went from a solid 9 to a struggling 4 I just said fuck that entirely and bought the industrial pack of the Hanes/Just My Size cotton granny panties and have never looked back. I keep other specialty pairs for various purposes but I’m solidly team white cotton undies now.
Re: Padded Bras:
I don’t EVEN know. It’s like, I’m a DDD, exactly how much padding do you think I need? Also, not all large breasts need underwires. I yearn, yearn for this bra I had in high school that was unlined, wireless stretch mesh that hooked in the front. Best bra I ever had.
Re: Rompers:
God bless you people with normal length torsos. I’d look like Tweedle Dee’s cameltoe in a romper. Wear them well and say a prayer for me.
I wonder if that bra was a nursing bra? There are some that hook in the front rather than have the trapdoor.
A-fucking-greed. The pro- or anti-romper question is and will always will be utterly academic for me, since there will never, ever exist a romper that would not be ALL up in my coochie-snorcher.
I’ve tried that hair inhibiting gel–I got a sample of the same line’s shaving cream and liked that a lot, but can’t say I’ve noticed a super significant difference. My mom dragged me to laser hair removal probably 20-ish years ago? Which was great for my self-esteem (eye roll) but I’m considering trying again, as my pain tolerance has perforce become a lot higher. But it’s really, ugh, facial hair I want gone and mine might be too light? ugh ugh this seems like an invention that should already be made!
Also, my mom convinced me I shouldn’t wear stick earrings because my face is too oval and sticks make it look too long. Hmm.
My mom used to drag me to get electrolysis when I was in 6th grade. She does not understand why this is something that still makes me angry.
:hug: My mom and I had similar tussles over her wanting me to take Accutane (I won and didn’t) and getting these awful “lymphatic drainage” facials with little suction cups (she won and I did). It’s just so demoralizing to get the message that even my mom thinks I’m ugly and need to be fixed in expensive, painful, and humiliating ways.
I mean, my mom got me special arm hair razors for xmas one year when I was a teenager and then was confused when I shouted at her and cried. She is normally wonderful and we get along fine, and I know it came from a place of genuine concern for me and how people would perceive me, but…damn, that feeling, there is nothing quite like it.
I bet you would rock stick earrings!
I bought the stick earrings because edgy earrings are key in keeping my short n bouncy curly hair with bangs bob more towards the fun side of the spectrum rather than the ’90s mom side.
I have tried all of the hair reduction options and I’m pretty sure none of them work (including space lasers, though those worked temporarily).
just logging a comment for #teamromper
I am also #teamromper. Love ’em. HOWEVER, the whole point of a romper imho is to be wearing one piece without having to wear a dress, therefore I do not love THIS romper that requires a shirt underneath.
#teamromper if we’re including jumpsuits. I don’t seem to have the right torso length for the short ones, but jumpsuits make me look like I have miles of legs and I am all about that.
I have a halter romper from American Apparel I bought nearly a decade ago. It’s only outerwear over tights/shorts, though. The advantage of the halter is that I found the happy spot and left it double-tied there, and now I can pull the straps over my head when I need to pee, no problem. This does mean I am topless in the bathroom, but the thing covers so little of me to start with….
I mostly wear it as pj’s on a super-hot day. The Boyfriend loves it and it’s so comfy!
The bigger my boobs get, the more I appreciate lightly padded bras. They hold their shape better, which means they hold MY shape better. I know it’s completely counter-intuitive, but it’s true!
Oh and for space lasers? Did my armpits years ago. Still slick as a seal. (Wait, seals are actually hairy, aren’t they?) The TRICK (and I do mean trick) is that they tell you you only need 6 sessions, and then you have a 2 year guarantee against hair regrowth. What that ACTUALLY means is you need 2 years worth of treatments. After that, nothing has grown back, and it’s been… oh, 6-8 years now.
I bought a Silk’n SensEpil IPL machine like, three or so years ago? No chin hairs, no dark upper lip hairs, no armpit hair. I haven’t gotten around to doing my legs more than twice because it taaaaakes sooooooo lonnnnnng omfg (and this machine has the biggest flash/treatment area available, afaik). If you’re a candidate for laser/ILP — pretty fair skin, pretty dark hair — then a $300 home device is an infinitely better option.
I find that orphaned earrings are perfect for when I wear the dragon ear cuff I got on ThinkGeek (may she rest in peace and rise in glory).
I’d love some panty recommendations. (Cotton or otherwise.) Basically tell me where to buy high-waisted boy shorts that will cradle my potbelly and look cute on my bubble butt.
I wear the microfiber and lace Maidenform boyshorts (black forever) almost exclusively. The “Dream” ones are an annoying cut with annoyingly slippery silky fabric, but those microfiber ones are aces. Comfy, ACTUALLY COVER EVERYTHING, and almost never show through clothes. I might pick up some of the Smooth Seamless ones to try out, as those look to have slightly longer “legs”? If they stay down and don’t roll, that could be aces for under skirts in hot humid weather.
Maybe try Barely There flex to fit boy shorts. They are my regular workday choice – do not accentuate gut, no VPL, stay in place. They don’t stay in place well when working out, but I guess we can’t have everything.
the Hanes X-temp boyshorts/briefs are a pair I bought for hiking and really like! I got ’em at Target in a 3 pack, which their website says was $10.99.
I bought those spear earrings with this dress: http://www.nastygal.com/product/knot-messing-arou…
I can’t wait to take over the world!!!
Also, take that L’Oreal Feria pastel line with a large pinch of salt. Box dyes are usually okay to apply, but will be hell to deal with should you ever want or need to bleach/dye your hair afterward.
Fruit of the Loom, Fit for Me, and Jockey all make cotton underpants in three and six packs. They also make full coverage panties for those who dislike visible panty line under their yoga pants. They make them as bikini and hipster for those who don’t mind.
I used to get them at Zeller’s, but my last batch were WalMart.
So glad I am not the only grown ass woman buying those six pack cotton undies. 🙂
Merino wool underpants. Pricey but dry overnight and you can wash in the sink and live off 2 pairs if necessary. #treatyoself.
I used to do the Gap tagless black bikinis but now I am MUJI unds all the way, forever and for true
That hair color doesn’t work for shit. The box claims you can dye blonde hair successfully, even showing the possible shades for different shades of blonde.. Tried it twice, once on an old blonde dye job and again on a fresh dye job. I have the faintest pink sheen under strong lighting, but that’s it.
"The most diplomatic compromise" is exactly why I wear them and you phrased it perfectly. And yeah, other than Aerie and VS, I don't know of a way to consistently lay hands on them, and the VS ones are always way too lacy and unravel-prone.
I just bought a couple of their large bralettes for wearing with swingy spaghetti-strap dresses where I'd actually prefer my boobs get tamped down a bit and not push the front of my dress way out. Not the most comfortable, but mostly when I'm wearing them I'm walking to and from my car/Starbucks/someone's house, so nbd.